I am notcing boys and girls. And i am always thinking about sex. and AHHH! its like im going crazy! what am i supposed to do? am i lesbien? or bisexual?
2006-06-19 17:48:14 · 15 answers · asked by kaylee k 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Girls compare their bodies at this age and it's perfectly normal. Chances are, you are heterosexual unless you have been molested. Molested children are confused about their sexuality. Don't believe all the hype on TV. Your parents should talk with you about the way TV and magazines present this subject, as though everyone is homosexual. Only around 5% of the population think they are homosexual. This means that the other 285 million of us are heterosexual. Think of it this way, like being a twin, for instance. Probably about 3% of the population are twins Do you know any of them???? Chances are, you don't. So, the same holds for this small number of people who claim to be homosexual.
As as for thinking about sex, you are just fantasizing about what it would be like. Girls hormones are not out of control like boys' are. Little boys and male dogs are very similar. They don't care who it is or where it is. Don't get caught up in that nonsense. Sex is really not a big deal until a woman is in her thirties. You have lots of time!!!Think more of yourself and pursue your studies and having fun. Having a baby as a teen takes away your entire life and you will be sorry you didn't wait. I have NEVER heard a girl say " I wish I'd had sex sooner".. Most are sorry they didn't wait for someone that cared.
2006-06-19 18:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
right now, the hormones your brain is not developed enough to tell the difference (sexually)b/t boys and girls.in fact they are just developing. it's not abnormal to notice a woman and find her attractive, the distinction(or problem, depending on your viewpoint) is how you act on attraction. when a person goes through adolescence it is almost like someone has replaced your brain w/someone/ something else's thoughts. give it several months to a couple of years and things will settle down. also if you find yourself specifically attracted to one girl-friend, really ask yourself about your feelings for her. do you like her romantically? or do you just really love her as a friend who you wouldn't want anything to happen to. do you see who she really is and how great of a person she is? if this is how you're seeing someone regardless of sex, it's evidence that you are maturing intellectually, not necessarily, bi/homosexuality. and yeah, it's fairly normal to think about sex a lot, most people do, they just don't verbalize, humans are very sexual creatures. if it's interfering w/your functioning and day to day activities, it would be good to see someone. even if not, it might help to speak w/ a pro. like a psychologist or a counselor. they might be able to clear more things up and help you sort through them a little better than here.
2006-06-20 01:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by wanderingmuse8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At fourteen, hormones are raging so it's not at all abnormal for you to be noticing boys, or even girls. You might just be noticing girls out of a natural curiousity, possibly stemmed from an interest in your own development. This does not necessarily mean you are a lesbian or bisexual, so I wouldn't worry about it at this point in time.
2006-06-20 00:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a teenager. Teenager think about sex all the time. You are not a lesbian or bi (tho it is possible that you will be when you grow up). At your age sex is still confusing and your hormones are all over the place. Don't worry if you're attracted to people you didn't think you'd be attracted to. It's all part of growing up and figuring out who you are and experimenting. Perfectly normal.
2006-06-20 00:54:07 · answer #4 · answered by brand_new_monkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No worries i'm 14, and i'mm going through the same thing. It's normal..you just want to know if your body is normal..if other girls look like it..and so much more..don't worry about it your not a freak..if your friends were honest chances are that they are going through the same thing
2006-06-20 00:53:02 · answer #5 · answered by manda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age you are just figuring out who you are. You don't need to be thinking about sex all the time. Maybe you are noticing how pretty girls are, or maybe they have nice bodies, but who doens't notice cute girls? It's normal.
2006-06-20 00:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the way society uses women to sell everything, you would have to be weird not to notice them. But at 14, I think you will decide in time which way you lean. Relax.
2006-06-20 00:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by psycmikev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are curious and just starting puberty. Completely normal. It doesn't mean you are a lesbian or bisexual. You will learn this if you are in time, but for now.......have fun!
2006-06-20 00:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just easier for girls to notice sexuality in other people.
try to get yourself some hugging, kissing, and petting.
it kind of doesn't matter who it's with but if a boy is available then that's good.
please notice I am not pushing you into sex, there's plenty of fun you can have first.
2006-06-20 00:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by leadbelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your young yet.. let time pass.. everyone at a certian age notice male and female. its not wrong to be interested in both. could be bi.. but when you're older you will find out..its hard to tell right now.
2006-06-20 00:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by tansyangeni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋