I like my best friend. we don't wanna ruin the friendship. I'm alright with that. but I can't stop thinking about her. I really need to get over her. It pisses me off when I can't stop thinking about her. if this keeps up then It may ruin the friendship anyway. HELP!!
2006-06-19 17:45:13 · 11 answers · asked by Thomas S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I like my best friend. we don't wanna ruin the friendship. I'm alright with that. but I can't stop thinking about her. I really need to get over her. It pisses me off when I can't stop thinking about her. if this keeps up then It may ruin the friendship anyway. HELP!!
we have already talked about it. she said she liked me too. though it was a while ago. I think she's over it so I just want help for me to get over it.
2006-06-20 17:24:13 · update #1
the best thing is to sit her down and tell her that you truley love her and want to be best of freinds but you also want her to be your girl friend,because there is no one else you would rather be with,
2006-06-19 17:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that the friend is not of like mind. This can be really rough on you, especially when she is on a date with someone else and you are at home thinking about her and she calls and wants to tell you all about her wonderful date.
I know some things about this because I was kind of in the same situation as you and my friend asked me to stand up for him at his wedding and I just could not do it.
Our friendship fell apart right then and I can't say it was a bad thing. I met somebody else and fell head over heels in love. If I had remained friends with my best friend I would never have let myself go out with someone and seriously consider them for a husband.
I got free from him and thought it was going to kill me at the time, but now I know differently. Best friends can only remain best friends if they don't cross a line and when you are opposite sexs it is really difficult sometimes to not let it happen. When best friends are the same sex it just never is a part of the friendship.
So that is why different sex friendships that are close usually don't last forever, because if what I described doesn't happen your spouse will not like it at all that you want to hang around with another girl instead of her.
2006-06-20 01:02:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't get her out of my head! That's what I'm going through this very moment.
Do you think there's a possibiity that she could like you too? I don't think you can keep your feelings all to yourself. One of these days, you'll have to tell her.
The very fact that you have feelings for her, it's only in your power to stop that feeling if you can still stop it. So, are you just afraid that it will ruin your friendship or you are sure that telling her will really ruin your friendship?
You know better. Whatever you do, you can't get her out of your head. You can do anything and everything but thoughts of her still springs out of nowhere.
I guess, we're in the same boat... I'll tell her so at least I don't have to think all the what if's I can think of.
2006-06-20 00:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jivan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there any signs that she likes u 2?
maybe u just need 2 tell her how u really feel. if ur saying this will ruin ur friendship anyway then just take a chance. (i got a friend dat has bin through this and she took the chance, turns out her best friend liked her 2 so they ended up going out and they both bin really happy ever since, it even got them closer together so u never no this could b the same 4 u)
2006-06-20 07:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by Petal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that crazy about her, then go for it. Tell her that you think that your relationship is worth the risk. It could be the best decision ever.
If, it does not work out, just shrug it off and blame it on drunkenness or something. A lot of people I know tried to date and they are still friends. Friendships are stronger than relationships. (its much harder to break up with a friend.) If it gets awkward, tell her you will have no contact with her for 30 days. Tell her that she can call first before than, or you will wait 30 to call her.
good luck! I'm rooting for you two!
2006-06-20 00:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by sarahliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she told you she does not want to ruin your friendship, then that is pretty clear cut that she is not into you that way.
If you want to stop thinking about her all the time, then find a new girl to go out with and think about...who knows, she may get jealous and start to dig you...
2006-06-20 00:55:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definetly talk to her. i liked my best friend and i made a move on it and it worked out for while.he was the love of my life. we eventually broke up and we didnt talk for a while. but eventually we just got over it and moved on. and now we are really close again. so what im saying is that life is full of chances and if you dont take a risk every once in a while you might be missing out on something great. just think about it a little bit and what youre going to say and then talk to her. if she really is your best friend shell understand no matter what the outcome..
2006-06-20 01:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Riagrl_Penny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would you rather do ruin your relationship or go out with her.... ask your self this question instead of sitting down and talking to her talk to yourself what do YOU want to do..? if you truely love her then talk to her if ya'll were made to be with eachother then she will fall for you....if not then yall will just be good friends....things happen for a reason
2006-06-20 01:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, everyone gets this feeling for short time. Enjoy the situation. Time will tell you the answer. Don't disclose your feelings unless you are sure that she loves you
2006-06-20 01:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by honest man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u both like each other then y not give it a try...
u dont know wat will happen in d future so just agree that u wont blame each other if in case d relation doesnt go well.
d point is u both tried & u gave each other d chance 2b happier
2006-06-20 01:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋