I'm very mature for my age and my boyfriend is very respectful. We're not sexually involved. He also has never pressured me to have sex with him or any other type of intercourse. Well my mom knows I have a boyfriend and she wants to meet him. My boyfriends looks 19 but he recently just turned 23 this month. I dont know how my mom will react when she finds out I'm going with a 23 yr old. He's a very nice guy! i have always liked older guys because they one's my age are so immature.Has anyone every been in this type of situation. If so , what would you do? I need some good advice!
2006-06-19 17:45:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I was 17 when i started dating my 23 year old boyfriend as well. It has been 4 years, and we are married and have a 1 year old daughter together. It helped that my parents actually knew him before we started dating, and my dad was actually his boss (yikes!) But it worked out, and my parents love him. I think some times people think their parents wont understand our situations. I would tell your mom his real age, have her meet him, and if she doesn't like him, then wait a year until you are 18 and can date who ever you want. But who knows, maybe she will like him as much as my family likes my now husband. ;)
2006-06-19 17:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by kraden_hottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very bad but I met my boyfriend when I was 15 and he was 21. We are still together today and have been for a little over 4 years. I told my mom from the get go, I told her how we met and that he wanted to take me out on a date. My mom wouldn't let me go in cars with boys at the time so we had a date at my house and it was great. So I really think you should just let you mom know up front how old he is.
2006-06-20 20:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by l_a_hart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never been in this situation but my advice is to just let your folks get to know your guy. He'll sell himself pretty quick if he's really as nice as you think he is. your parents might try to hate him but he'll eventually win out.
There's nothing wrong with having an age difference like that. Maturity doesn't come with special age markers. Wow your 18 and all this wisdom suddenly pops in your head LOL. That's bs. Wisdom is a factor of many things and from wisdom springs maturity. So it would be wise to introduce him to your folks on as nuetral ground as possible. Let them get to know him first THEN tell them y'all are going out. If he is for any reason fake your partents might root that out. If he passes your parents blessing then you will be have had a second opinion who also thought he was as wonderfull as you see him.
Good luck with things. Remember love is too special to allow anything to come between two people in love. There is always a way if the love is true and the need is great.
2006-06-19 19:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by draciron 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like this guy is doing the same thing to all of the girls in his life fool them get them home get them pregnant and leave them. The best thing is u to start living ur life stop learning about him only things that consider ur sons well being because it is his father after all. Well I understand that u hurt but except if u have a legal document that states that ur son will not visit his father at his home then u can not do that. He can see his son in the weekends and his son can stay with him except if u take a full custody. but that is a legal matter. and remember one mistake that mothers do is letting their hurt feelings take over fathers and sons relationship u raise ur son to be a man in his own and soon he will understand by his own what is right and wrong till then don't say anything bad to him about his father or don't let him away from his father or else when he grow he will have bad feelings about these. As for u hurting is not easy and be heartbroken is normal after all u been through just consider ur self lucky u have a gorgeous lil man in ur arms and with ur sons help u will be back on ur feed because he is ur happiness for now... and after a while ur wounds will get better
2016-03-26 22:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been in this situation....i was 17 dating a 22 yr old...and didnt tell my parents...at all...and they freaked when they found out on their own...and pretty much kicked me out of the family for getting pregnant with his baby...now on the other hand i also lied to my parents when i had just turned 17 about an ex boyfriend i had, he was 21 at the time and i told them he was 19 cuz he looked it....id be completely honest w/ur mom...explain to your mom ya'll havent had sex...she should be ok with it...good luck
2006-06-19 18:22:46 · answer #5 · answered by kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are concerned that getting involved with a man who is older will potentially jeopardize your future...you getting pregnant or into alcohol or drugs...or being hurt by someone who is more sophisticated than you...or getting so involved with him that you elect not to complete your education. So you need to be up front about the relationship. Demonstrate the relationship is solid and moral and will not adversely affect your future.
2006-06-19 18:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by c_schumacker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to ur mom. Tell her that before she meets him there is something u want her to know. Tell her about him then say he is 23. Tell her about ur relationship how he's understanding and doesn't push ur for sex. And ur not sexually active. Stand your ground and u'll be fine. And be sure to add that he's not immature like guys ur age.
2006-06-20 04:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by Pumkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't mention to your mom how old he is, don't lie, either, just hope it doesn't come up. let her meet him, if he really is a nice guy, he'll win her over. then if she ever asks, go ahead and tell her how old he is. once she is comfortable with him it won't be a big deal. sometimes parents even like their daughters to date older, more mature guys.
2006-06-19 19:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ganesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her meet him, you are a young woman and your 18th B-day is fast approaching anyway. My own daughter at 17 was dating a 22yr old guy, we just let the relationship play out as normal and eventually they broke up on their own.
2006-06-20 01:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is EEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW date someone that is CLOSER OR THE SAME AGE AS U. NOT 23 that is just gross do your rents know about this?
2006-06-20 04:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by jojostappsunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋