I met him years ago through a mutual friend and we became really good friends, he moved in with me and my boyfriend and things were just fine, we always talked and laughed and when I was sad or blue he always made things better. he was always there for me. then recently he started to change, it was like he was getting mad at me when other guys came by like I was messing with them and would make sarcastic remarks only I could hear.
my boyfriend & I have male and female friends that over the years would stop by for a visit. never has he acted this way, we've always gotten along but now he's like a different person. It's like I never really knew who he really was til now. I ask him why he's treating me like s--t! , but he won.t give me an answer. now he's totally ignoring me altogether. was it all an act?
2006-06-19 17:36:45 · 18 answers · asked by Vtownn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hmm worries
2006-06-19 17:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has apparently grown to have a deeper attachment to you than just friendship... his frustration of not being able to act on his feelings are coming out in the form of jealousy and anger... this is a very common effect of male/female associations that are more intimate (such as room mates or co wokers) than that of casual friends. Make a point to have a private conversation with him... explain to him what you feel and what you think may be causing all of the tension and anger between the two of you and see what his reaction is.. if I am right (and I am positive that I am) he will immediatley deny this and try and say that it isn't you that he is dealing with other problems right now that he doesn't want to talk about.. well.... don't let it end there.. tell him you know the truth and you need to settle this matter once and for all. It may take several attempts, but he will eventually come around and say what he needs to say. Sometimes we have to put distance between us to make a friendship stay strong... too much closeness can cause mixed emotions and hurt feelings that are confusing and hard to understand. Peace.
2006-06-20 00:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by julianna76301 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does sound strange, the sudden odd behavior in him. I may be way off here, but I'm going to guess that it may just be that he has stronger feelings for you than you think and he is just trying to cover it up so it doesn't show or he doesn't get in trouble with you guys because of it. He seems to me to be showing a hint of jealously with you and if this is true then maybe you and/or your boyfriend might want to try sitting down and having a serious discussion with him to ask him what's going on and if there is a problem. Chances are that if he does in fact have a crush on you he will never admit it but there are signs that could clue you in on that if you start trying to notice them. Like I said, I could be wrong but that's just what it sounds like to me. Hope everything works out for you all though and no hard feelings come out of it.
2006-06-20 00:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have fallen in love with you during the course of your friendship, especially by living in the same house as you. Could he be using drugs? He may just be confused. Just be patient, you'll get your answer soon. From your question, I really don't feel it was just an "act" so don't worry about that. Good luck to you, it'll all work out in time.
2006-06-20 00:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Brooke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy
2006-06-20 00:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by Legal_Beagle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have just started to have feelings for you and the way he is acting is to show you he is jealous he acts that way because he doesn't probably know how to tell you! But maybe I am wrong I hope you wrok things out!
2006-06-20 00:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by Buga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, his friendship wasn't but his act was acting as a friend when he knew he wanted more. should never move a friend in with you and your already going relationship it just mess things up. specially when he/she is not gay.
2006-06-20 00:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very possible that he is in love with you, and resents the fact that your happy with your bf. you should sit down and talk to him. let him know you seriously are hurt by his actions and words to you. dont make it sound like your attacking him, just say, "hey ive noticed that you say/do this when *this situation* happens. its hurtful to me? why are doing that?"
maybe its hard for him to express his feelings...so he chooses anger.
2006-06-20 00:43:32 · answer #8 · answered by Floofykins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suppresed Jealousy
ive seen it before no matter how sure you are that he does not like you " he does"
get him help fast and try and get him some where eles to stay
you and your boyfriead could be in danger
2006-06-20 00:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by lone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is in love with you. it's jealousy. he doesn't know how to express himself any other way. that's why only you get the comments. instead of hitting on you he is being mean so he won't do something else.
2006-06-20 00:40:31 · answer #10 · answered by kaycee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is possibly in love with you......did you ever think of that? :P People can act in different ways when this happens...
2006-06-20 00:39:20 · answer #11 · answered by Girl Goes Back To The Future 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋