Last month I got engaged to my fiance. I've known him for 15 months. We've had our ups and downs. I thought he was insenstive at times & I reacted to everything he said to me. I sometimes got upset & angry. So he kept going back and forth with me & many times he wanted to break up with me for silly reasons. So I confided in my mom and my sister about my relationship with him. My sis recomended a Dr. Phil book and I got it and changed my attitude towards him. I also fell madly in love with him. But he loved me from the start. Now he treats me with respect. We are like two love birds. When I discussed my wedding plans with my sis she got mad that she's not my maid of honor. Now I'm afraid she's going to tell him what I told her when she meets him 4 the 1st time when we go visit her in 2 months. Mom said I shouldn't have told her everything about him. Because she's been known 2 badmouth me and maynot keep it to her self but tell her husband who will tell his brothers. Am I a fool?
2006-06-19 16:55:09 · 6 answers · asked by cluelesschickus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't get what the problem is, what did you tell her? And is your relationship with your boyfriend that tenuous?
2006-06-19 16:58:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you left yourself be vulnerable it is best to come clean with him before she gets the chance to put it to you. The other option is to let her know if she screws you up with the stuff she knows you will let some of her secrets out that could make things tough for her. She could also be left completely out of the wedding. You have not said anything here that should upset him. If he can't take criticism now what will life be like in the future?
2006-06-19 17:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...I can understand why your sister is not your maid of honor. She doesn't seem to have a lot of honorable qualities.
If you are afraid of her trying to ruin your relationship because of jealousy or whatever, then DON'T GO VISIT HER!
You'll learn (as I did) not to share details of your love life with ANYONE. It always comes back to haunt you!
2006-06-19 17:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by yorbalinda1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your fiance. Tell him your love wasn't as strong in the beginning and your sister is going to twist things.
2006-06-19 17:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him before she meets him.
Or tell her he already knows and that discussing it made your relationship stronger.
Hope your bluff works.
2006-06-19 17:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by balans_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah as Dr. Phil would say
"SO HOW IS THAT WORKEN FOR YA"
NEITHER OF YOU SHOULD BE THINKING ABOUT MARRIAGE FOR A LONG TIME...
2006-06-19 17:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by fscape444 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋