2006-06-19 16:45:55 · 24 answers · asked by lynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
LEAVE HIM. I dated a guy for 5 years & he never took me to meet his mother. She lived about 15-20 mins away from me. He would always complain that that was a long way to go to his mothers house. When we broke up he told me that he was ashamed of me, thats why he never took me to meet his mother. LEAVE HIM!!!!!!!
2006-06-19 17:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by ceecee2019 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if she lives nearby then theres a problem.Unless he hasn't seen his mother in a long time because maybe they dont get along. But if he like goes and visits her more than once a year or if she lives in the same town then there is a problem, especially if he has met your parents. He may not want to introduce you because hes scared of what his mother may think .... mama boys oh yes he could also be ashamed of his parents and is afraid that you would look down on him. so just ask him why and if that is the reason try and convince him that you love him no matter if his mom is a crack head or not(("P
2006-06-19 16:49:48 · answer #2 · answered by coco_k22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really explain the dynamics of your relationship... so it will be hard to give you a full answer... maybe he is not ready to share that part of his life with you at this point. There could be factors involved with his home life that he feels would change the relationship between the two of you. You should be asking this question of him. I know in my own personal life my fiance is not comfortable just yet around my family in general... his family is very small and sedate to say the least..lol where as my family is very large and loud and we are opinionated and show a great deal of affection and emotion when we are gathered together..he doesn't really know how to handle all of that just yet..lol but he is getting used to it. Don't discredit your boyfriend for his not wanting to let you into his family circle at this time... as long as he understands that you are curious and want to meet his mother and that you at least deserve an explanation for his hesitancy should be enough at this point. Peace.
2006-06-19 16:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by julianna76301 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to think that everyone has a good relationship with their mother. It's good to think that if he did, he'd care enough to introduce you to her.
You've been dating him for 4 years, so I'm guessing that you and he have a good relationship. Ask. But remember, there are a lot of reasons he may be hesitant to introduce you and many of them may not have anything to do with you.
Family dynamics can be difficult to understand. More then likely you have a good relationship with your mother and expect he has with his. Don't assume. Also recognize that he may not want to talk about it- if he and his mother are estranged. There could be things going on that happened long before you and he met- and he may not be ready to talk about them.
2006-06-19 16:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by niteowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask your partner where he or she see's the relationship going, because being in a relationship for 4 years is a long time, family plays a big role in relationships as well, and you don't deserve to be someones dirty little secret. Confront your partner, tell them how you feel. I would do that if this was my situation.
2006-06-19 16:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the problem?
Is everything else in the relationship fine?
Why do you need to meet his mother?
If everything else is good between you just drop it and enjoy your relationship.
If you still feel the need to pry then tell him how you feel it wold be nice if you met his mother and would in your opinion validate the relationship etc.
Don't push it though, maybe he just isn't close to her.
2006-06-19 16:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by balans_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's probably a good reason you haven't met his mother. It may have nothing to do with you. It Could be her.
2006-06-19 16:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by chelsb1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r out of quasition do u want to mary his mother or him, i have been dating my gf 4 3 years but never visited his family before
is just a matter of time pls be pattient
2006-06-19 16:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by jonas m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think twice about how he will take you once you are married and start mothering your children. Then be prepared to be hammered by the mother.
2006-06-19 16:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by TK3000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for 5 years
2006-06-19 16:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋