I am married and have a great sexlife but lately I have been talking to bi-curious and bi guys and that turns me on. I am also very attracted to ladyboys. I have never actually given in and went out to meet a guy and dont know how to handle these feelings.
2006-06-19 16:22:58 · 24 answers · asked by serious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well... it really depends. Could you see yourself in a long-term relationship with one of these people, or just a fling? If the first is true, you could be bi. If not, you're simply curious. Regardless, you probably shouldn't act on it while in a relationship or you'll risk hurting your wife. Good luck!
2006-06-19 16:26:11 · answer #1 · answered by Requiesce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last year I found out by accident that my husband is bi-curious. At first I was a little upset (thats putting it mildly!). However, I couldnt be upset with him, because I would be a hypocrite. I am bi...I have feelings for and am attracted to a woman who happens to be one of my closest friends. She is Bi also....My husband knows and accepts that. I know and accept the fact that he is curious about it. I dont think that you are sick or weird. Some people are just more sexual than others. Besides, who gives a damn what other people think?
2006-06-19 16:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by andieangel2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are married you should seriously consider if you would continue having these fantasies if your mate found out after the fact. Perhaps your sexlife is not as great as you say and you should reevaluate your need to have other partners against your relationship regarding sex with your mate to find the source of this fantasy. I would not venture out to "meet" someone since the risk of Aids/HIV is not good. It is not fair to expose your partner to that lifestyle. Maybe some counseling would be a good idea to explore your feelings.
2006-06-19 16:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by spencer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you talk to your wife about this first. You do not want to ruin what you have with her. She is your wife for a reason, so she will have to help you. If i were her i would also like to find out if my husband had any gay/bi tendencies, to see if we were really meant to be or if i need to help him with these changes. These kind of things may come out later in life, but you cant hide from it. It may be who you really are. Your wife might even be ok with this. You might even need to give it a try, jus do what is right first. Then go from there.
2006-06-19 16:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by spongebobswife68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, don't listen to the people who will put you down over this. At least you have the courage to admit your desires. And dont' sweat it over the labels "gay" or "bisexual".
You need someone to talk to about this. If you're in a big city, find a gay-themed newspaper and look for ads for counselors.
I advise you not to "give in" to your desires until you have some stable footing. If you're married, you want to protect her dignity as best you can.
Good luck.
2006-06-19 16:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by itsallgoodaintit2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question for yourself. I was always curious, and when it came time to it. I liked the feeling of receiving, but was almost sick to my stomach to reciprocate. I was not married so no one would get hurt. My friend did try to tell me it was my first time so it was ok ( no I just did not like to oral) We are no longer friends. Think hard before taking any action and put yourself in your spouse's shoes-- how would you feel?
2006-06-19 16:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by ccwife2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your bi,the thing is do you really want to risk your marriage just because of a urge,on the other hand its no good to be in the closet if you truely want to bi sexual,its best to tell your wife straigh out,i know shell cry but it is for the best,at some time shell realize this and get on with her life
2006-06-19 16:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though I have a good sex life, maybe you are bored. Try adding toys or another person, if your partner will.
I tell my partner that I am attracted to chicks all the time and hes really kool about it.
But I have never cheated.
You need to be honest with your self
2006-06-19 17:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by missylissy84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are married, I guess you should give up on such thoughts because they will only strain the relationship between you and your wife. Who knows, she might just dump you tomorrow and you may not have same sex attractions any more. Since you are into something already, it's always better to give it up than to pursue it or get addicted to it...
2006-06-22 17:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by Praveen S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
None of the above.
Since you're married it's actually adultery. Get divorced first, then explore your sexuality, whatever that may be. But you owe it to your wife to be totally honest about what you are going through.
2006-06-19 16:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by alter_tygo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋