Any advice about lack of confidence?

Question

I always have this feeling that no one likes me...even my own parents...I always feel like I'm not good enough...any words of advice?

Answer 1

Try Confidence Club.com, the cds they sell may be useful, either that or try a confidence coach, maybe even some counselling. I know exactly how you feel and I have tried all the "positive thinking" techniques but sometimes you do need a little help.

Answer 2

Whoah, wait a minute. Don't set you expectations to high, been there done that. It sounds like you are being to hard on yourself. If you do your best, then that's all you need to do. Are there reasons that people make you feel this way?, or do you think they are lacking and taking it out on you? You can and will build your confidence up if you change your way of thinking and turn your thoughts on as many positive thoughts you can, believe me they outweigh the negatives. You can take one day at a time, do your best, and make sure that you keep around a positive atmosphere. If people around you now are bringing you down, go off somewhere to clear you mind of it and start thinking of only the good things. Of course, your parents will always be your parents but you hang in there and if they truely see that you are a stronger person than they once believed then, you have succeded.

Answer 3

Do what you like most without asking someone's consent or advice, as long as you know how to handle the situation. In this way, you'll learn how to make decisions on your own and you'll learn how to make better decisions as time goes by.

Don't do anything just because your parents' like it, your parents won't be with you forever. Act mature enough so they won't treat you like a kid, for example, do your house and school responsibilities without being told.

Label yourself positively and you'll soon find yourself proving it. I always believe that I'm the truest commander, even though I have not been to any serious military boot camp, because this is what I want the people to think of me - a true commander.

Be the best in what you love to do. If you like gaming, then work to be the best player. Being the best will pull people closer to you.

And talk to people, the silent ones mostly scare them.

Answer 4

Search your soul. What made you feel that way? Was there a time in your life that someone hurt you with words that made you feel inferior to others? Don't you possess good qualities that will make you a likable person?

Learn first to love yourself. See your good sides, eliminate your bad side. Change your bad qualities to good ones and be sociable. Show that friendly disposition and I'm sure, others will like you to be their friend. Loving yourself will make you feel confident that you are worthy to be loved by others.

You can never be perfect for nobody in this whole wide world is. Each individual is unique. You possess qualities that others don't have and vice versa. Use those good qualities to your advantage. Don't think of yourself as inferior to anybody for all of us were born equal. Learn to show sincere liking for others and they will appreciate that and like you in return. Trust me.

Answer 5

Keep a journal...it can become like a type of best friend. Write in it every night, and write down one thing that happened today that makes you feel good about yourself. Keep a running list, and glance over it whenever you're feeling low.

Also, as trite as this may sound, get involved. Volunteer, especially with little children. They think you're amazing if you can make a paper airplane or tie their shoes for them.

And always remember, people do love you and care for you.

Answer 6

I'm sure your a wonderful person with low self esteem. Sit down with your parents and let them know how your feeling even if they are to busy wait till they are more settled and talk to them i'm sure they love you .you need to work on yourself find something that you are good at and go for it. stop feeling sorry for yourself what you create on the inside will show on the outside and no one wants to be around a person that doesnt project good energies. just wake up put some nice clothes on do your hair walk around with your head up make conversation with people let them get to know you make dates with friends and before you now it you'll be popular with a good attitude towards life and people will want to be around you all the time. Good Luck and let me know how it goes.

Answer 7

Confidence isn't about knowing you're good or cool or whatever. Confidence is about giving yourself permission to suck. Because everybody sucks in their own way, we're only human after all.

P.S. Don't worry about what everyone else thinks your life should be like. Make your life the way YOU want it. You're the one who has to live it, after all, not them.

Answer 8

Find something you really enjoy doing and throw yourself into it, make some friends who accept and understand you, and remember, everyone has trouble with confidence every now and then. Best Wishes!

Answer 9

you are not aware of your own abilities and potential.....

you are unique......you need to realise your uniqueness....

the feeling that no one likes you.......its too deeply embedded in your soul....

you feel that way bcoz you are not in peace with yourself.....

bcoz you havent accepted yourself completely.....

who decides how good we are...? its our own will......

"to be loved.....be lovable"

cheer up.....you are good...

you cant be so bad after all.....

coz you are askin such a sensitive question!!!!!!!!!!!

you are special....truly......dont ever deny that to yourself

you are an expression of life.....how could you be any less valid than the others???

you are just a part of this life as anybody else....

its in your thinking....concentrate on your strenghts , abilities and potential....be aware of your own talents.....have a clear vision towards what you want in life.....your dreams will give you strenght....

and smile more often:)

Answer 10

You need to keep reminding yourself that you are worth it, and a good person. If you feel that way how can anyone else think different. Like you got to love yourself, before anyone else can love you. think positive about yourself and you will attrack others to you.