Am I mad/irritated over nothing?

Question

My friend we'll call her Jill, and her friend Jack.
Jack calls me today and acts all weird on the phone on the phone... Nervous and what not. I tell Jill cause it made me laugh.
Later on Jill goes to Jack and says "Hey why were you acting so weird on the phone with Chelsey?"
This irritates me, because why tell him that I said that? It's pointless. It makes me feel stupid because now he knows that I said something.. Ya know?
She ALWAYS does this. It's usually little ****, but when I asked her why she said something she said "I don't think before I speak, I'm stupid, and if you don't like it, don't be my friend."
okay...
About a month ago I told her some stuff about this guy we both know. There are only 2 people that know this stuff.. I told her not to say anything, I just thought I'd let her know he's a jerk.
She goes to the guy and asks him all these questions about the **** that I told her!
Now whyy I don't understand.
This girl is supposed to one of my best friends.

Answer 1

I know how you feel. We both have/had simular situations. The difference is my best friend told me some negative things about her boyfriend. I, in turn, discussed this with my husband. She got angry with me over that. Needless to say our 18 years of friendship is over. She decided that I am no longer her friend for telling my husband. Anywho, there are people a best friend could tell and people a best friend should not tell.
I am going to go out on a limb and assume that both of you are in your teens. You asked her not to tell and she deliberatly violated that. Using the "I am stupid" line as a reason for ignoring your request sounds like her way of making you feel like you were in the wrong. Do not feel sorry for her and do not take blame. You are not the reason those people know. Now this is not worth throwing out a friendship but it is worth putting her on a "probation" period. Just let her know that you can not trust her to keep things to herself and until you feel that she has regained that trust. If she gets uproarous and angry because of that, then she is really not your friend.

Answer 2

ok...base line - you pushed her away first by making use of no longer trusting her! Now, she's outfitted up resentment and he or she's mad each and all of the time 'reason she does not comprehend the thank you to tell you she's no longer happy. She loves you, yet she's no longer IN love with you. You blew it a at the same time as in the past and due to the sticky concern she's putting on and constantly turning the different cheek. She's mad at you, herself, the worldwide, and does not comprehend what to do good now. She needs to flow away yet does not. she will't think of life with out you yet she will. She's puzzled so it truly is as much as you to instruct her which you will replace. communicate is affordable strikes communicate louder. warning: it truly is too late!! don't be intense-high quality, be truthful.

Answer 3

No, I don't think you're mad at her but you are irritated by her not keeping things within herself. Some people, for no reason at all, cannot keep things to themselves. But betrayal is not their point for doing this. Your friendship should not rely on this issue because she may still be a friend in different ways.

The best thing that you can do is not to tell her things anymore that may put you in hot waters if the subject matter knows about it. Things left unsaid are better than saying them and being a prisoner of your own words.

You can still include her to your best friends' list but better not include her in the list of those who can keep secrets because she might not be good at it.

Answer 4

Your friend seems like one of those people that likes to stir the pot. The more they stir..the worse it smells..and the less people will be picking at them. She may be fun to do things with..but she is not someone that you can trust with secrets & such. Now that you know this about her..its up to you to not tell her things that you dont want spread around. You cant blame it all on her if you know that she will be a blabber mouth. Look for someone to be friends with that is more trustworthy & make sure you are being trustworthy as well.

Answer 5

I'm confused about why you are upset about "Jill" talking when you were talking to her and telling her stuff that perhaps you shouldn't.

two rules:
don't say anything to anyone that you would not want repeated.

don't say things to people who repeat things.

You can still have a friend and be friends with someone who talks to much. Just if you can't control her mouth, control yours.

Answer 6

You are somewhat stupid, aren't you? She has shown you over and over she cannot keep her mouth shut about anything, brushes it off with "I'm Stupid." and you keep telling her stuff??? Naw, not her...it is you. You just don't know who to confide in. And I think I would take her up on her offer...I would stop being her friend...she is not a friend, she is seeking the center of attention by repeating everything you say...not much of a friend, is she????

Answer 7

Does something have to hit you in the head or what. You should know by now. Stop telling her stuff. And if she asks why tell her "Because your a blabbermouth, a blabbermoooooouth"

RIP- Jackie Gleason

Answer 8

She obviously doesn't act like your friend. If you want to keep hanging with her then you'll just have to stop taking her into your confidence. Personally, I would prefer my best friend be someone I could trust with secrets

Answer 9

Just because she is your friend doesn't mean you have to share everything with her. Obviously you can't trust her, she is a gossip. That doesn't mean you need to ditch her as a friend, just be more careful about what you say. Some people just can't hold their tongues!

Answer 10

How many times will it take for you to get a clue that this girl can't keep a secret? And you need to stop gossiping. It will get you into trouble if it hasn't already.