how do i know that i am falling in love with a women that i have only spoken to and have not met yet?

Question

this women says that she is truely in love with me and wants to marry me and she has also said that i am the only guy for her for the rest of her life and she also says she has never felt with way before in her life, she gets butterflies in her stomach and she wants to her from me all the time and misses me when she doesn't hear from me and i miss her too when i don't hear from her and i want to hear her voice all the time and i also get butterflies in my stomach when i hear her voice, but we have only spoken to eachother for 2 months and and have obviously never met in person, but will very soon, she lives overseas but wants to live here, two questions here am i falling in love with her and is she definetly in love with me, i have asked her many times how does she know this is love and she has told me it is a feeling in her heart as i have previously told you, i definetly believe her when she says she loves me more than words can say. but could she be wrong

Answer 1

Well, this certainly causes me to reminesce. This sounds almost exactly like a situation I had a few years ago. I had met a guy on the internet, and talked with him for a few years. We professed undying love for each other, and even met in person once. Shortly after that, the relationship faded. We both realized that we were spending all of our time on a long distance relationship that simply would not work. He lived in England. He wanted me to move there, but I wanted to attend school here. I am so glad that I followed my instincts and stayed for college.

When we were corresponding, I could never seem to imagine a life "without him". We were becoming attached to just being there for each other. When I "broke up" with him, it was the hardest thing ever at the time. However, I found a new boyfriend...one that lives near me!- and life went on. We are going on 5 years now.

I did not mean to deviate from your question, but I felt a little background should be presented to enhance the sort of mutual situations we encountered. I am not here to break your heart, but I must present to you the facts that I learned:


This woman MIGHT love you....but chances are....she doesn't know what love is. She is attached to you emotionally from the talks you have had, and she has a need in her heart for that. She thinks she loves you, but all she has to work with is the mere thought of a person she has never met.

She also sounds very "needy". Do not spend all of your time trying to correct that. It isn't a good sign to be that needy. Maybe she is depressed? She sounds like she is looking for something to latch onto.

Without meeting you first, I would take a marriage proposal VERY CAUTIOUSLY. How do you know what this woman is like? She could just be a freeloader...or maybe even messing with your heart. If you rush into something like this...especially not having even met her, you are going to crash land at some point..and it will not be pretty.

Almost this exact same situation happened to one of my friends as well, but it turned out that she was using him. I cannot stress caution enough!

I am not asking you to break it off with her...but tone it down A LOT. You may think you love her, but please, do not make judgements until you have MET HER IN PERSON. I do not mean to be redundant, but I really want you to see how much I care abouut this issue.

Talk to her about this issue and tell you that you just want to be friends. You can still talk to her and such, but try to arrange some meetings so you can get to know each other better. You cannot have a relationship through thin air. A healthy one has plenty of human face-to-face involvement. Take things slow.

Get involved with some hobbies or events in your town. Go out more, and interact with new and interesting people. Who knows who you will meet? Do not tie yourself down to a person who is overseas if there is never even a chance of meeting her. That would not be healthy. Life is too short....have fun!

You can take my tips for what you want, but they are all lessons that I had to learn the hard way, and...so did my friend. I know you are confused and emotional, but you must think about this situation clearly. Please consider what I said, and I wish you the BEST of luck.

Take care, and God Bless.

Answer 2

Okay... first of all...
1) I believe at LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT.
2) I do believe there is a concept of "THE ONE"
3) There are some people out there who are sensitive the knowing the previous 2.

However there are wishful thinkers and dreamers too...

So how do you know the difference?

Simple... A protracted courtship... and certify...

Spent the time negotiating the relationship.

Maybe she IS the one. Maybe not... but don't RUSH anything.

Being SURE and delaying JOY... is not a vote of non-confidence.

Answer 3

Some people loves comes from physics contacts, eyes contact, loves his/her performances, body, face, attitude ...etc anything involve physics.
But....there are some people loves from inner side,...i mean just no matter about physics, even sometimes they haven't meet each other (just like what you do)....
They feel they match from the soul.
Chatting or conversation they did give them much need information about personality, character, hobby, etc,.then they who already spent time together in physically. This thing made them already known each other well and day by day that loves comes...
Believe it or not some people meet her/his soul mate and goes to marriage from Internet chatting, pen pals,...or something like that!!!
But time can tell the truth after the meeting, you will know what type you are...the person who think about the physics or inner side/beauty....
good Luck!!!

Answer 4

Maybe you should meet and see when it goes. Beware of putting out too much money at first, especially if it seems too 'easy' or if the 'butterflies' could be your higher self telling you what may happen to you in the future should you pursue this matter. My friend had similar expierience with a philipino woman who used him to come here and begin moving her family over and obtain her 'green card'.

Answer 5

Love is sometimes diffcult so meet get to know each other before you say you love each other it's a start to want to talk and hear each others voice but love is so much more and it's a commitment.

Answer 6

Yes, What is language to do with love. And above she can learn to speak english. She's not a child she's big enough to learn new language and that too which she is familiar with a bit.

Answer 7

Let's be truthful; is she seeking to come to America? Could she possibly be manipulating you in order to gain access to this country? Did she initially pursue you?

These are questions that you should carefully consider before you go any further. I know of many men of whom have been taken advantage in this way.

I could be wrong but you should seriously consider this.

Don't do anything drastic before you introduce her to several people that know you well and listen to them carefully for they will have your best interest at heart.

Answer 8

I am assuming this is on the computer. Only meeting face to face will tell.
But be very careful. Maybe she wants a free ticket to the US.

Answer 9

from a woman point of view, she is infatuated! or obcessed with you.does not know what love is , mabey you have something that she wants,mabey she is falling from another relationship and is looking for someone to rebound to , or she is crazy. to be in love with someone that she has not meet.where is the getting to know stage, best friend, level ,where is the i like stage, which gets to i love stage?be careful where you fall.

Answer 10

i'msorry to say this to you but it sounds to me like you are lonely and vulnerable. a lot of people are always hoping for the best and want to be in love but you KNOW you have to seperate fantasy from reality.until you have looked into someones eyes you truly can't say you love them you know i'm right you just need support. also be very careful of scamming. it happened to me and i was shocked.as they say easy does it.