my mom & my father?

Question

I am always asking my mom about my father.And she always changes what we are taking about.And i am sick and tried of her not telling me about my own dad!!!!!

should i do something about it.
please help me

Answer 1

sit and talk to her tell her you want to know about him and if she dont you try to do it yourself, tell her you are serious and dont let her change the subject on you all the time.

Answer 2

Sandra, i dont know how old/young are you now. I will assume that you are already old enough to handle the worst situation.

Your situation is ticklish. There are a lot of possibilities, and with each one or in combination with others, the right answer will differ.

First, you must understand that your Mom loves you so much that she assumes the 'father and mother role' for you. That's a very hard task, and you have to appreciate this. There is/are reasons why she is holding back info abt your father, maybe because you are not ready yet to hear it, or maybe because for her, it is best not to let you know, afraid of so many things only she knows.

As of now, you could not tell who was at fault (it could be either your father or mother).

If you are matured enough and ready to handle this emotional stress, and your mom still withhold info abt your father, then go and get your info somewhere.

Start asking your immediate relatives. Dig up your birth records or your mom's marriage contract if there is. Ask your mom's long time friends.

Answer 3

Ask can you guys talk about something that's really important to you. Tell her that since she's not giving you information you've had to supply the answers for yourself. You've decided that your father is in jail, or he's a married man, or she was raped, or she doesn't know who the father is. Tell her the truth has to be better that what you've imagined and every person deserves to know about their parents. Good Luck

Answer 4

IF you get her to talk, be prepared to hear the worst. But understand this, she has most likely never told you for a few good reasons to protect YOU.
I am sure you want to know where you came from (or who) but realize, almost all mothers who do this, do it for a very good reason........to protect their child from someone who didnt want them, wanted her to end it in an abortion.....raped her.....something she lives with everyday.......and doesnt want you to go through the same.
Is your mother now married or in a relationship with a male she lets around you? If not, then face it.......something bad happened with him (your father that is) and she trusts no males near you....and for a very good reason.......
i know you want to know who he is, where he is, and meet him
but also know this.....she carried you, she had you, she raised you........SHE wanted you....she did the right thing.....he did the wrong thing.......its hard to hear it but its the truth
if he did, you would know him........

Answer 5

write her a letter. TEll her that no matter what her story is you will not judge her. Tell her your ready to know and you can handle the news.

When she tells you be mature about it. I mean it. dont ask if you dont want to know sweet heart.

She may have been raped or dumped or she may even have been a hoe. but you cannot judge her.

maybe she's afraid of what you will think of her.

Answer 6

Let her know that it makes you upset that she wont tell you anything....talk calmly and dont get mad. If she decides to tell you great, but if she doesn't, don't force her. It may take her some time to realize that it's time to talk about your dad.

Answer 7

Until she's ready to talk, there's really nothing you can do about it. Chances are that he hurt her very badly and it is painful to talk about, or maybe he is a bad person and she doesn't want you to get to know him for fear he might harm you.

Answer 8

Go Visit dad.

Answer 9

SOME TIMES THINGS ARE BETTER LEFT ALONE...MAYBE YOUR MOTHER HAS A RES SON WHY SHE DO NT TALK ABOUT IT...PUT YOUR SELF IN HER SHOES...DO NT JUMP TO ANY CONCLUSION ON PUTTING BLAME..THINK IF YOUR DAD CARES THEN WEAR IS HE..WHO SUPPORTS YOU IN YOUR EVERY DAY WORRIES...IF YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR DAD THEN LOOK FOR YOUR SELF..GOOD LUCK ..

Answer 10

tell her you want to know about your dad and ask her why shes been hiding it all these years.