okay, i am 20 years old and i am feeling a bit confused right now. i do find both guys and girls attractive, but does this make me gay? bi? its a feeling that i can't explain. i haven't really been in many relationships - is that why i can't tell? also, what are some signs that i can show another lesbian that i may be one as well. please help!
2006-06-19 14:37:46 · 25 answers · asked by Confused about life 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if you haven't carried out your desires you may be curious. I'm straight, however not everyone is. you and only you can make the decision on what you want to do with your life! have you felt this way all your life? or did you break up with someone and had a bad experience? i cant tell you what to do read 1st cor 3:15,16 that's what the good book says. i don't judge others so i hope this can help you somewhat. your asking for signs if you don't know your most likely not. your only 20yrs old and not many relationships. start dating more with men. not just one i mean dating. maybe then you will know? thanks
2006-06-19 14:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Sweetie, You are young and confused because you haven't had much experience.Lots of people are the same way. I know I have been. If you are attracted to both genders but have not actually had sexual relations with another person of the same gender, you are what they call,"bi-curious", if you have had sexual relations with the same gender and are still attracted to opposite sex... you are bi, (if you feel that you must put a label on it). If you really, truly want to see what it is like to be a lesbian, I would suggest that you go to a place in your area that is a known lesbian hangout and observe first before you make any moves.
2006-06-19 15:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be bi, you might be gay, or maybe you're just wondering at this time in your life. Generally, people know or have some feeling one way or another. And that could happen when they're small, or when they're past adolescence. If you have a friend you can talk about this with safely, that might help. If not, maybe a safe adult (parent, aunt, or other). Take your time - there's no hurry. If there is a GLBT center in your town or a near town, visit it and chat with people. Or look up the San Francisco GLBT Center online - they might have an 800 number you can call to talk with someone. You don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. If this is upsetting you, ask folks at the center for a referral to a counselor so you can explore safely. Your feelings are valid and you're brave to acknowledge them.
2006-06-19 15:15:55 · answer #3 · answered by marshnewby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through. I had the same thought when I was 21. I had been in relationships with men but it just felt like something was missing. I had relized latter in life that I was bi. There is nothing rong with enjoying a little bit of both worlds. Lission to your heart and I would suggest meeting some one that is a lesbian to exsperiment with to see if it is for you. Good luck .
2006-06-20 07:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what take the labels and chuck it aside. Attraction and love does not necessarily have to do with gender, it's the soul self/spirit that you actually get attracted to.
Showing someone you are interested works pretty much the same way in any relationship. Just drop some subtle sign's if you get a response, well then flirt your heart out.. and take note of the reaction, if it's positive go for it. Good Luck.
**hugs**
2006-06-19 14:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by lseetz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to really know is to experiment. Don't do anything you might regret later, however. Go slow and be honest with yourself about your feelings. From your description, I think the best bet is that you are bi, but only you can tell.
2006-06-19 15:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by Eravial 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and as you said have not had much experience. Be patient. Finding people attractive is not the same as sexual desire. You flirt with women the same way you flirt with men -- you know -- eye contact, strut, compliment. If you still don't know try sex with each sex -- if you enjoy both you are probably bi-sexual.
2006-06-19 14:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by please remove me from here 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about titles now. Just decide how you feel, and if that takes hours, days, weeks, years...whatever, that's how it has to be. Sexuality, like gender, is a fluid thing. Always changing and taking new forms. Just let yourself learn from how you feel and what you do. You'll figure it out. I did.
2006-06-19 18:38:12 · answer #8 · answered by enigmagirl5_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you just need to experience a little more with both sexes. But, my bet is that you may be bi-sexual.
2006-06-19 16:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by lalamuffy@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a lesbian bar this weekend and dress to kill, the rest will be taken cared off. all you need to do is to enjoy yourself and EXPLORE the possibilities. flirt your heart out and get the number of the girl that catches your eye and go on dates after that. no sex until you are ready, you dont need to rush yourself until you are absolutely ready.
this ougtta help you decide :) GOOD luck my friend!!
2006-06-20 01:40:45 · answer #10 · answered by Rainbow nation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋