I had a best friend she was my best friend for about 7 years or so. I was getting married 3 years ago and her boyfreind at the time forbid her to be my maid of honor if she had to walk down the aisle with another guy. Now this came about on my WEDDING DAY!! I begged her to come and be there she protested a little but then gave in. Well after I got back from my honey moon I spoke with her once and that was it. She had told me that "Josh" Said that she couldnt be my friend anymore. And that was that. Now 3 years later. I saw her boyfriend which was now her husband that she was getting divorced from. He apoligized for what had happened. it really did touch me. But then everytime I've seen him after that he would try and get me to call her and tell her he's changed. Um i dont think so. But should i try and contact her after all these years when she was the one to end the friendship. I miss her but she dissed me so bad. I was hurt for so long and i still am what should i do
2006-06-19 14:25:09 · 7 answers · asked by Pleasegiveadvise 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
NO, NO, NO. I had the other perspective happen to me. My best friend of 9 years was getting married and I was the bridesmaid. Same thing, my guy didn't want me to do it either, because of the walking down the aisle with another guy. Anyhow, long story short, I did it because it was my friend and it was my obligation and privledge to do so. Your friend, regardless of this guy, didn't give two craps about the friendship or you. She put a guy in front of you. Who says it won't happen again. This was a lesson to her, she lost your friendship. Let it sit on her mind now that she's alone, no husband and no best friend. She deserves a friend, but not someone as good as you.
2006-06-19 14:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yeah u should i almost lost my friend because of the same thing but i was kinda different my friend was suppose to go to my b-day party( been friends since pre-k now in 8th grade) her man said no so she dindt come we dindt talk for weeks..i seen her by herself at the mall and she ran up to me and huged me so tight and i called her and her man answerd and said stop callin bit** and the next day they were over so maybe if u call..she will still love and miss u to..so call her and talk if u really miss her..i know i am just a kid..but i knwo what ur going threw..
2006-06-19 21:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy_Mami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation and did not talk to a close friend of mine for 5 years. I divorced my wife, long story, and looked for her. We forgave each other immediately because our friendship was true in the beginning. True friends forgive, forget, and move on to better things. I strongly advise that you get in touch with her, but leave him out of it. I think he wants to use you to get to her.
2006-06-19 21:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by fortuitousoppty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If you read my most recent question, you will see that I had also been dissed regarding a guy and a close relationship. If you feel like making an attempt, make it. If you do and she doesnt respond, forget her. You dont need people like that in your life, and at least you can say you tried.
2006-06-19 21:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Roma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like they say friends are forever and that you guys should learn from this and make up and talk about what you and her missed about your guys life and she if anything is new in her life. This might make you guys closer in friendship and it might make a learing thing.
2006-06-19 21:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she just wasn't strong enough to stand up to her boyfriend/husband. He sounds like he is being manipulative. It won't hurt to call your friend. We all change and grow. And we all deserve a second chance now and then.
2006-06-19 21:30:04 · answer #6 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her on email and then IM and then phone and if you like her(as friend) then meet her somewhere
and the thing if you don't atleast try to talk to her, what if she couldn't be your friend because she was in danger because of "josh"? just try talking to her first please then make a decision
2006-06-19 22:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by [♥that girl♥] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋