my friend is a whore and a loser, how can i bring it up to her without being to desrespectful?

Question

my friend amy is a real whore. she'll suck any man's dick no matter who it is. and she also tells guys that she hasnt had sex in months when its really been days. She is 19, Chinese, and still in high school.She smokes and gets high.She has about 300 $ in her name and doesnt even know how to drive. Shes heading towards a life of a failure. And she isin't good looking enough to be a prostitue or even a stripper. I want to talk to her about her future but i don't know how or what to say without being too disrespectful. I still want to be friends with her but i feel like this is something no one else is gonna tell her, so i have to do it for her own good. If i don't say something, shes gonna keep this up for the rest of her life.

Answer 1

Wow! If you talk like this about a friend, I 'd hate to see how you diss your enemies! Friends are supposed to be supportive, non-judmental and not broadcast the other friend's weaknesses. The answer is to just speak privately to her.

Be tactful and tell your friend that you are worried about her and why. Please do not call her a "whore" or not "good looking enough" as you will hurt her feelings and close her mind to anything constructive you might have to say. Not to mention that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and your opinion may not be the same as someone else. You might want to tactfully suggest that she seek counseling to find out why she is on a self-destruct course. There may be some driving force or emotional issue in her past that you know nothing about.

However, she is an adult at 19 and is entitled to make her own choices and mistakes in her life so if she rejects what you say, you have to accept it.

Answer 2

The only thing you can do is TELL HER straight up. I mena bring up something that has happened recently, and go from there. Whether it be bad or good, get a conversation started. I know that many ppl don't want to hear what they're doing wrong and will get hostile, but you still need to bring it out in the open and make her think about what she is doing and where this life is taking her. Even if she winds up hating you (which I hope that doesnt happen, since, shes your friend she might take it to heart, but you never know)you'll still have brought it up and even helped change her life, and thats what counts, hopefully she starts to understand that what shes doing is 1) Wrong 2) Not going to take her anywhere in life. How long have you known her? I mean this could be because of her upbringing or somehting that happened toher when she younger, talk to her, theres always more then meets the eye. Also talk about YOU, what you want to do, places you want to see, ect..don't make it all about her, or she'll feel even more like your pointing out all her flaws, and nobody likes that, no matter how many they do have.

Answer 3

In order for you to find the best answer to your question, I have two questions for you:
1. Is a sex/drug addict someone that is capable of being a real friend to you?
2. Are you really being a friend by referring to her as "a whore and a loser"?

If you really want to help, maybe you can do an "intervention". You might be able to help her, but I wouldn't try to do it alone. And remember, she is 19 and responsible for her own choices, so don't put too much on yourself...

Signed,

A Recovering Alcoholic & Addict
9 years sober

Answer 4

Wow, the way you described your friend is horrible. I don't think you are really her friend at all. You want to respect her but your post is so disrespectful. If she gets high and turns tricks you need to go your own way. You probably have some of the same behavior as your friend you just hide it better. I don't know if you are the right person to talk to her since you don't seem to have a lot of compassion. You will probably make matters a lot worse. Find someone that really cares and can talk to Amy with compassion and love.

Answer 5

I think you are lying! She can't be all that bad and still be called a friend and if she is why would you want tot keep her as a friend? Friends don't call friends whores and losers first of all and second in my opinion and you asked for it she is grown and that means she gets to do with her body as she chooses. At 19 I didn't know how to drive so f-ing what! And why are you concerned with how much money she has you don't have to support her, do you? It is not your place to judge your "friend". Keep your distance from her and when she asks you why you aren't hanging around her tell her that you don't like the way she gets down and you don't want to become guilty by association.

Answer 6

Either you're jealous or just spiteful.
If she was your real friend, you wouldn't have talked about her the way you did, aside from calling her a whore. What you wrote maybe all true, but that's not what a real friend talks about. Suggests to me that you're a two-face. So, I say, she's not gonna listen to you. She's an adult now, and she'll do whatever it is she wants. She'll probably do some sort of selective hearing, but she won't truly listen to a "friend".

Answer 7

Hummmm disrespectful. Calling a person a whore on the Internet, where millions who see this knows her Name. Luckily you didn't post her address.
Try looking on her side of the tracks ( background living) see if she has been Raped Molested, Abused. Find the cause before you so call it trying the cure.
Disrespect that's funny.

Answer 8

Wow, and you are assuming that you telling her that is going to make her change her ways? Were that it would. Tell her and be honest, but be advised that she is 1) not going to do anything about it and 2) tell you where you can go. If you are willing to have that happen, go for it. Maybe she will listen. People don't change just because you want them to--even if it is for the best of reasons. I wish the both of you luck.

Answer 9

How about like this...
"You are a whore and a big loser and only a true friend like me could be so brutally honest. Now shape up, loser, or else I'll kick your lily white ass into next month.".

C'est un beau piece d'amour! Magnifique!

Answer 10

First of all, it seems to me that you are really bitter towards this so called "friend" of yours. You practically just downed her. If you think she'll listen to you, my advice would be to sit her down and tell her straight up how you feel. If she doesn't wanna hear it, let her be. Leave her alone, there's better friends out there for you.