Birth control or trust?

Question

Do I put my teenaged daughter on birth control - practically giving her permission to have sex or trust her even though I know that "things happen" even to "good girls." I don't want to give her the wrong impression but it only takes once...

Answer 1

I'll tell you what one of my friends and I did. It might be an option you might want to try.

Why not have a talk with her. Tell her that you would like her to abstain until marriage but, if she finds someone and knows she isn't going to wait for sex, that you want her to promise she will come to you for birth control. That while you will be disappointed, you will not lecture her or try to change her mind, but you will provide her with birth control so that she is safe.

Answer 2

Talk to her and talk to her often. Don't ask did u have fun with ur friends when u want to know are u having sex. Be straight with her and she'll be the same with u. Try not to freak out or be judgmental, use facts. I say that because when she comes home and say my friend had sex for the 1st time and u go what a slut, and ur daughter was trying to build up to telling u she had sex a month ago she's never going to tell u. If u scream OMG she did she won't tell u. Let her know she doesn't have to tell you. But if she has unprotected sex she might get pregnant or catch a harmful disease lol i say harmful like there is a disease that is good for u, even hpv can lead to cervical cancer. But yeah tell her about what can happen with unprotected sex, then tell her if she tells you when she is considering having sex then u can take her to get birth control as added protection since her boyfriend will be using a condom (notice u didn't ask u told).

Answer 3

She could already be thinking of or already having sex so but then again she could be a 'good girl' but I think that you should put her on birth control and explain to her why you are doing but your not giving her permission to have sex after your talk with her HOPE and TRUST that she will do the right thing and always be safe.

Answer 4

Oh, I don't look forward to when my daughter is a teen - I feel for you! I don't think that you should put her on it - it could give her the impression that you think it is okay to have sex. Keep the lines of communication open with your daughter though. See what she thinks and feels and even though you may decide not to put her on the pill, if she feels she can talk to you and trust you, she may talk to you along the way. So if she feels like she might have sex, you can talk to her about it then too. Good luck!

Answer 5

It's her choice as to take birth control pills or not, you can not "put" her on it. She can obtain the pill with or without your help if she so desires. Helping her get access to the pill is a very wise move, young people are sexual beings like it or not just like you or I. She does not need your permission to have sex in the first place, insuring she is protected when the time comes shows you care and nothing more.

Answer 6

It does only take once. Teenagers often don't think in the heat of the moment and accidents happen. Put your daughter on birth control and educate her on how to use it properly. She should also have a supply of condoms, because the pill or the patch doesn't protect against diseases.

Answer 7

Birth Control because you trust her to make good decisions but you cannot trust men to make those decisions for her. Birth Control because you want her to get in the habit of being in control of her body and her fertility before she needs to have that control. Birth Control because you love your daughter and want to be a part of her future sucesses, which includes finishing school, finding a suitable mate, and having a family when she is ready for it. (Toss some condoms in a decorative box too, cause the pill doesn't prevent STDs)

Answer 8

Well i agree with you, even good girls fall in love and these days its natural for teenagers to have sex. Having a baby when you are too young could be a real problem, not only for her, but for the baby. Of course trust its important also, try to be best friends with your daughter, you are going the right way.

Answer 9

Watch who she dates. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16 and I am so greatful. If I wouldn't have, I couldn've run into some serious problems. If you don't like who she dates, monitor them more heavily. Make sure to always be supportive, though and make sure she knows you're on her side and you just want the best for her. Don't put her on birth control. Tell her that you trust her not to have sex before marriage, but that if she decides to, which could ruin her life, that she should use birth control and she is free to tell you if that's her choice.

Answer 10

i'm on the pill and we use condoms, yet we the two nonetheless concern approximately being pregnant. I basically became 20 on the twenty third of this month and my bf would be 20 on Jan. ninth & our daughter is 7 a million/2 months previous, so for particular we are no longer seeking to have any further infants for a minimum of yet another 5 years. And my era has under no circumstances got here on the comparable day each and each month, sometimes it comes some days early and infrequently some days late, so any time it truly is late even an afternoon we are the two hectic, lol. so which you're no longer the only one.

Answer 11

My mom forced me to take birth control pills, which I resented, and I did not think of it as encouragement to have sex. It had no impact on when I first had sex at all. I understand what you are saying, but you can't completely control you daughter's actions. Why don't you talk to her about her life, and explain about sex and advise her that she should wait, and tell her about how difficult teen pregnancy is. Communication is better than everything else, and then you can decide together.