Women how do you feel about submitting to your own husbands? Do you feel it is a bad and dirty word?

Question

I want feed back on this and i want input from the Bible as well. Also what kind of wives should we be to our husbands? Do you show respect and honor to your husband? If so what are some ways that you do this and do you ever talk bad about your spouse? Do you lift and build your husband up to others everday and also are you a helpmate to him?

Answer 1

It seems the Church and alot of the people answering your question have bought into the "mutual submission" or "egalitarian" doctrine. They don't like what the Bible has to say on submission, so they've gone to great lengths to try to prove that God really didn't mean it that way. The Bible is very clear that the wife is to submit to the husband as the Church submits to Christ. He is the head of the woman, and no that does not mean "source", it means the "authority" over her. Yes, it tells the man to love his wife as Christ loves the Church, but if he does not do that, that does not release the wife from the commandment to submit. There is a great website dedicated to the role of women in the home and the church. It is called:

The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood
http://www.cbmw.org/

There are also lots of great books. Some of them are:

The Excellent Wife
The Politically Incorrect Wife
Me, Obey Him?

If you do a Yahoo groups search, you'll find many great groups dedicated to submissive wives as well.

Marriages that are set up according to God's plan are the ones that last for a lifetime. I wish you the best.

Answer 2

Depends on what you mean by submitting, do you mean sexually? If so, I'd be glad to submit to my man sexually because him being in full control during the time leading up to and the "act" itself would be so sexually exciting to me & I'd enjoy it so much more than normal.

If you mean in everyday life, I guess it really depends on the relationship itself. I'd again have no major problem with submission providing my feelings are considered & everyone is safe, happy & content. I kinda like a strong man to "take over" sometimes anyway.

I'd always respect & honor my husband (if I had one) and I'd expect the same in return from him. I'd show him respect & honor him by treating him fairly, with unlimited unconditional love, lots of affection (hug's, kisses, cuddles, etc.), caring for him, doing for him, communicating with him & whatever else it takes.

I'd never feel a need to talk bad about him because I would respect & honor him too much to do that!!

And YES, of course I'd lift & build my husband up to others but only because I'd want the world to know I have such a good man!

Of course I'd be a helpmate for him. I am BIG on team work and really do feel if we worked together instead of against each other, we'd get a lot further in many ways.

I do alreday live this type of life, kinda, with my boyfriend. We live together & hopefully one day soooon I will have the honor of introducing him as my husband. He is very good to my 4 son's (not his) and I. He is sexy, respectful, loving, kind, caring, sensitive, dedicated, stable oh & did I mention sexy?

Answer 3

Submission to your spouse is not a one-way street. Marriage is about mutual submission so everyone's needs can be met. The Bible says wives are to submit to their husbands but it also says that husbands are supposed to love their wives as Christ loved the church; sacrificing themselves for it. That means putting their wives needs before their own, however wives are to do the same thing. Believe me it works.

Answer 4

Until a few years ago, the idea of submission was offensive to me, as I was active in the women's liberation movement.

However, now that I understand the Bible better, submission does not mean I have to open the doors to abuse or degradation from my Husband, but respect and honor.

If my Husband is not respectful, loving and kind to me, well, GOD will deal with him.

I just have to keep up my end of my promise to GOD, and that is to trust and obey Him.

And GOD keeps all His promises to me!

Answer 5

I feel that submission is good. Submissions does not mean that you are a door mat, it means that you are a support to your husband. Your husband should also submit to you in areas where you need his help. If we help them get done what they need and they feel good, they will want to help us.
I find out what my husband most like to have done, and I make sure it is done. It is really just a few things that he likes. A certain drink in the fridge, his drawers neat and his shirts ironed, and a few minutes quiet time when he first gets home. If he gets these he will do whatever. It was when I was trying to do everything that I was getting frustrated. It is a lot easier to find out what he wanted and just do that!

Answer 6

The bible teaches couples to mutually submit to one another. And that is how it should be...no man or woman should be over one another.

Now in the sex department should a man or woman wish to be mind-controlled then it should be done in a safe, sane, and consensual manner. And that part of their relationship is their own.

Any person who decides they prefer to submit to one person another there should be an understanding of why and the person who is in control should respect and honor the one who submits.

Simple.

K

Answer 7

My husband worships me and I him. We show each other mutual respect, love and devotion. I take care of him and he takes care of me.

He is not above or below me. We meet in the middle which is what a marriage should be instead of one person being put on a pedestal.

Answer 8

i do everything for my husband, and i never tell him no when he asks for sex, even if im tired.he can do anything to me in bed,and i always listen to him, maybe thats why we have such a solid marriage, if i have a problem, i sit down and he listens to me, and helps me solve it.i never talk bad about him, and we never argue in public.nobody knows if we have a problem because it is our business.

Answer 9

with me hell no you have to give me respect in order for me to give it back some cultures are like that you have to honor and respect your husband but to me you have to give to get