IS THIS FAIR? MY HUSBAND WORKED TODAY THE ONLY DAY HE HAS WORKED IN 2 MONTHS HE LOST HIS JOB.TODAY IS MY BIRTHDAY I STAYED HOME CLEANED THE HOUSE AND TOOK CARE OF OUR DISABLED CHILD.HE CAME IN AND HAD THE NERVE TO ASK ME IF HE COULD GO TO THE BAR.I GOT NOTHING FOR MY BIRTHDAY AND AM VERY ANGRY SHOULD I BE?
2006-06-19 12:51:23 · 22 answers · asked by SABRINA S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thank you all.i found out he was working to get me something and my cousin didn't give him any money to get me anything.and it wasn't his idea of the bar thing.after i talked with him or should i say after i yelled at him he told me and he had borrowed some money and brought me a soda and a rose home.he realy is a great man we just never have money because it's hard for us to get jobs without a car.he is now making dinner and getting our son ready for bed.i do get emotional too much.and i do yell before finding out all facts.so it was my fault too for not letting him explain.
2006-06-19 14:38:23 · update #1
Of course you should be angry but you have more reason to be depressed. You are a brave person and should be credited with a lot... I am so sorry to read that you worked all day in your home and took care of your disabled child and were looking forward to a little show of love and care on your birthday from your husband... I really am so sorry. If it is any consolation, my heart is with you. From me all the way from London England, have a great birthday with your other loved one... your child. HAPPY BIRTHDAY
2006-06-19 12:59:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have serious problems in your relationship. Not only do you have the incredibly demanding responsibility to take care of your disabled child, but you mention your husband has only worked one day in the past two months?
If he has not worked at all, where was he going to get money to go to a bar? And if he had money to spend, why did he not buy you a birthday present or hire a babysitter so you could get a break from the caretaking on your day? That sounds very insensitive!
Since I do not have all the facts, I can only say the following. If you think your marriage is worth saving, go to counseling. If not, please be courageous and file for divorce. Better to be alone than to be incredibly unhappy.
All the best to you. God bless.
2006-06-19 20:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Tropical_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I know how it is to lose a job. I dont blame him for working especially if he just started the job, but at the same time its your birthday.. If I were in his shoes, I would have at least took you out to dinner or maybe ordered something to take home and maybe a movie or something showing you that I remembered your birthday, and he should have at least done something for you besides think of himself and go to the bar... You should bring it up and tell him to at least make it up to you...and no its not fair! Good luck, and happy late birthday!
2006-06-19 19:58:16 · answer #3 · answered by Rosko!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you have the right to be angry. It sounds like you're taken for granted. What's going on between you and your husband? How's your relationship? Maybe things are no longer the same.
MAYBE he forgot your birthday. Ask.
Happy birthday anyways!
2006-06-19 20:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jivan S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
what a jerk he is!!!! first of all today is your day and he should no that, you worked all day taking care of your kid, cleaning house, etc, now is the time for you to relax, and you tell him so, you tell him to either cook you dinner, or take you out to dinner, but the bar is abouselty out tonight!! but he needs to make this up to you! it seems he thinks of his needs and not yours!! but he needs to romance you tonight, and take care of you I really hope he makes this up to you or I would let him sleep on the sofa! if he needs pointers on being romantic tell him to talk to me, I always take care of my partners and are very romantic!!!
Please have a long talk with him and tell him just how you feel I really hope this helps!!1
HAPPY BIRTHDAY YOU DESERVE THE BEST!!! IF I COULD I WOULD SEND YOU FLOWERS, CHAMPAGNE, AND A GIFT CERTIFICATE TO YOUR FAVORITE STORE!!
TO REALLY GET HIS GOAT TELL HIM PEOPLE ON THE "NET WISHED YOU A HAPPY BIRTHDAY, BUT NOT MY OWN HUSBAND!! this just might get him to think twice about you!!!
2006-06-19 20:17:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Yes!
I would be ticked off right now. Tell him NO he can't go to the bar. If he's already there when he got home we'd have alittle talk.
Did he know it's your B-day?
I'm sorry.
Happy Birthday!
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2006-06-19 19:55:00 · answer #6 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but also taking into account his male state of mind, did he even remember its your birthday?
Most don't
and he's proably depressed about the loos of hte job. i'm not excusing the asking, but don't tell him yes, then be angry becasue he went. men don't know how to read minds the way women do. so he probably has no clue adn would feel bad if you reminded him
2006-06-19 19:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by magrelle2126 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very angry...he sounds like a bum (no offense.) I have not married yet and am still in college, I really don't know what I would do if I were in your shoes. I am very sorry. Happy Birthday to you!!!
2006-06-19 20:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by joyfulnoise83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be mad that he lost his job; I'd be mad that I have put my family's well being in the hands of an obviously irresponsible, immature individual.
Don't get mad - get prepared so you don't have to rely on someone else for your well being.
If the quality of your marriage is based on how holidays are recognized, I shudder to think how the rest of each year is for you.
2006-06-19 19:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by Paula M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First my wishes to you, Dont scream at him at once , He may even have guilty feeling of not getting you anything. More than Practise, Patience Makes (Wo) man Perfect.
2006-06-19 19:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Muttama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋