Adoption is great! I know a few people who were adopted and they have great step families, and love their life. So why can't woman put up their baby's for adoption, rather than abort them? Seriously, you can't say they may have a horrible time growing up, you never know, and many children are adopted my wonderful couples. I am so glad I wasn't aborted as a baby... aren't you?
2006-06-19 12:38:16 · 13 answers · asked by genuine♥ 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
To the people that say it is a woman's choice on what she wants to do with her bodies..
Where is the baby's choice, the unborn baby is voiceless, so does that mean it doesn't exist?
Also, technically the fetus is not part of the woman's body, just inside it. It has it's OWN DNA!
2006-06-19 12:45:02 · update #1
To choose to place your child for adoption rather than choosing abortion is an amazing (and really noble) thing to do. Incredibly brave. Because it has to rank up there as one of the most heart-wrenching things a woman ends up doing. Giving birth and then placing that child with another family, maybe never to see the child again. Not everyone can take that path. I believe in not judging one for their choices -- adoption, abortion, raising the child -- no matter what, if you have to face these choices, you're going to have some heartbreak.
2006-06-20 10:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by ABBMAMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is more complicated than you think. As someone who has dealt with countless stories from many generations of adoptees, birthparents, and adoptive parents, I can tell you that adoption has lifelong issues that you cannot dismiss. For every story of a happy adoption story, there is one frought with abuse, lies, shame, and dysfunction. Not all agencies place in the best interest of the child, and rather make it their business to find a child for a couple.
It might be difficult to imagine if you haven't given birth to a child to put yourself in the shoes of a birth mother. You carry and nurture a child for 9 months only to have that child taken away forever. You have constant reminders, a changed body, milk coming in and hormones going wild while you have nothing to bring home, no papers, no evidence of your loss. Even in an open adoption, nothing can stop the adoptive parents from moving and breaking the agreement. Everyone praises the birth mother for the selfless act, then they get the baby and she is expected to move on, shut up, and pretend it never happened.
They get no follow up support, because they are supposed to just get over it.
We live in a country were single moms and their children are called "burdens on society" and we are surprised that women choose to terminate their pregnancies?
If we had more humane adoption practices and treated all mothers with respect and supported families, we wouldn't need abortion.
As an adopted person, I believe that my adoption was the best option for everyone involved, but the downer is that the state treats me differently because I am adopted. I had a full name and legal identity for the first 3 months of my life, but I am not allowed access to my original birth certificate. I can trace my birth roots to the 1400s, yet I get a blank piece of paper when I try to access my original birth certicicate.
There is still shame attached to being born out of wedlock that makes states feel compelled to protect women from their offspring. Shame and secrecy attached to the adoption process, adoption will not be an attractive option.
2006-06-20 16:55:20 · answer #2 · answered by Denise C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't agree with you more. Unfortunately, as a man, my say has little relevance when it comes to decisions with regards to what a woman decides to do with her body. I find abortion, unless for health reasons, abhorrent ; I am not judging those who have made that decision, as I believe I was not put on this planet to judge others, and if it was my child, I would do whatever I could to make the woman decide to take the child to full term, as I would raise the child on my own if need be. (I am a single Father). Cheers, and let's pray that others see the light and take the option of adoption. Peace and Love.
2006-06-19 19:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now there are over 500,000 children waiting to be adopted in the USA alone. They overburden a system that is barely equipped to care for a fraction of them. Where are all these great step families to take them home? Half a million American orphans.
Maybe when some of these kids who are ALREADY ALIVE find homes, then MAYBE we can start asking questions like yours.
2006-06-19 19:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by ratboy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Adoption is wonderful. There is absolutely nothing wrong with giving a child life and giving them a chance in to live that life to the fullest. My mother gave a baby up and as much as it hurts her she knows deep down that is was the best decision.
2006-06-19 19:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, adoption is a wonderful way to find homes for wanted children. However, I also believe that it's a woman's right to choose.
2006-06-19 19:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing to say that there is anything wrong with adoption. However, women should also have the option of abortion. As women, it is your right to decide what you wish to do with your bodies.
2006-06-19 19:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's a personal choice when it comes down to it, for the mother. there is nothing wrong with adoption. but different people in different circumstances have to take different measures
2006-06-19 19:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by ackboi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is great . some people can't have children who want them., so much. *yes* i'm glad too.
2006-06-19 19:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think adoption is wonderful, My uncles who couldn't have children of their own both adopted children, and I think they are great kids...
Saved kids...wonderful kids...-smiles-
2006-06-19 19:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by ~Sinfully~Exquisite~Stalking~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋