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Okay, please tell me if i am overracting or just crazy..My husband decided to take 2 days off to see he buddy in San Deigo which is only like hour and half from where we live. He informed me this morning that his battery to his cell was dying and that he forgot his charger. He also imformed me that he would call me from his friends phone. I come to find out that my Cousin in NJ has taken 2 heart attacks. Now i found this out last night and when i spoke with my husband it was for a minute or 2 so I couldnt tell him. This was at 6:30 this morning and it is now 4:15 in the afternoon. I am considered a very cool wife by his friends. He goes down sometimes twice a month to visit his friends adn usually stays the night as well. Now he is gone for 2 days and i am freaking out about my cousin. Am I insane or overracting? I do not want to be that overbearing wife but I am just pissed becasue he is gone for 2 days then when i need him he is not there .

My husband is 150% faithful. We love each other with every breath in our bodies and souls. That is not what I am worried about. I think Harmony has it right. I just need my hubby so i can cry on his shoulder. Thanks for all the advice.

Answer 1

You should have found the time to tell him during that phone call. You can't be angry at him for something he knows nothing about. He's quite fortunate to have a wife who is understanding enough to let him go on overnight trips to visit friends. I would think that you should have his friends phone # but apparently you don't. I would suggest in the future that you have an alternate way of getting a hold of him for emergencies.

Answer 2

Hi Monkey Girl,

It's great that you trust each other and love each other enough to have overnight outings without the other. Most people would not want their spouse away overnight, I know I would not & not that I don't trust my man becuse I really do. But I do kinda agree with the others above me that feel something is fishy about the cell phone thing, seriously, he could just buy another charger. Ya do know there are cell phone stores on almost every corner & chargers are super inexpensive. I don't feel your being overbearing or over reacting either. How come you don't go with him when he goes away? I would take my man if I was going away & if he was unable to go due to a work schedule, family emergency, etc. I would reschedule and do it when he was available. But that's jsut me & to know me is to love me!! ;-) Good luck!! I sure hope things are much better for your cuz!!

Mary

Answer 3

I don't know him but that cell phone thing has been used alot!!! You have every right to be pissed. Not only have you gone 2 days without talking to him but when you need him you cannot reach him. My husband's Friends think I'm the cool wife too.But there's a difference between being the "cool" wife and letting him take advantage of you-- only you can can make that call. Good Luck and hope your cousin is doing okay.,

Answer 4

You have every reason to be frustrated. Your cousin is ill, and you find yourself without your husband who should be around in a time of crisis. You've agreed to his visit with his buddy and I sense that you aren't happy with him going as often as he does. In any event, this arrangement was in place before your cousin took ill and being annoyed at your husband now, after he's already made the trip seems like your revoking your consent for his visit after the fact.
With that said, it's inexcusable for your husband to take off without a reliable means of contacting you. His cell phone battery died? Come on, did he ever hear of a pay phone and a $10.00 calling card? Did his friend's phone get cut off? It sounds like he doesn't care about being contacted...or about contacting you.
Unfortunately, it takes a situation like your poor cousin (I hope your cousin is recovering) having multiple heart attacks to demonstrate that visiting his friends, while away from you, as often as he does may not be working out anymore. I'm a husband who doesn't want to be away from my family. If I do go away for a night or two, I do so reluctantly, and I call my family a few times to check in.
When you do contact him, do not get angry, Explain to him your concerns about him visiting his friends too often, and tell him that if he ever does visit his friends again, in the very distant future, he'll make damn sure he can contact you and that you can contact him. Why? Because it is the right thing to do. Wanting your husband to be with you is NOT being overbearing: It is NORMAL!

Answer 5

I have a very cool wife whom my friends like and I love. She would be pissed, I would spend two nights on the couch, stomach growling with an unsatisfied feeling of having bolgna sandwhiches for supper!

I'd say you are not overreacting at all.

P.S. If my wife went to San Diego or some place I'd go with her.

Answer 6

Sounds like you are under stress! But why should your husband be stressed out like you. Would this help you if he was stressed out like you. Take it easy and settle down and dont take your frustration out on your husband. Stay the cool wife that you think you are and tell your husband how much you missed him.

Hope your cousin is okay and will recover soon

Answer 7

Listen you should have took time out and told him about your cousin. This way he probably would 've came to be by your side but you didn't, so he's not too blame. How or why would he be there if he doesn't know about your cousin. You might be being a little overbearring and selfish.

Answer 8

You aren't overreacting - you need your hubby and you can't get in touch with him. You can't really be mad at him though, he's gone down there before and everything has been fine. Have you tried calling the friends? If he goes down there a lot you should at least have his friend's numbers in case of an emergency like this.

Answer 9

I don't think you are overreacting at all. If I were you I'd be pissed that he is going away so regularly and he conveniently forgot his charger. His friends can't come and visit him, it just doesn't add up. And I'm sorry about your cousin hope everything works out for you.

Answer 10

Call his friend's phone. Tell him that you need to talk to him and maybe you will feel better after that. Then tell him to go buy a new charger so you can get ahold of him if there was an emergency.