because he can make about 3 th dollers more a month if i do. we wont have to pay 4 hundred a month for a babysitter. I am not really big on my job i love what i do(sell cars) but i dont really like all the lieing and sceming that gose on here. but to be a stay at home mom 24-7 aint my thing eaither. i cant be so dependant on people its just not my thing. but he did say i could get a weekend job or something like waitressing that works. i will than have my own money and i live in wildwod so the summer is a great time to waitress. i dont know what to do the people at my job i will really miss. and i will loose my health insurance. my daughter will still have hers but i will loose mine. what do i do. please help. i am supposed to give my two weeks notice today.
2006-06-19 11:47:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep working.
2006-06-19 11:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very immature and selfish to me. If he is even close to serious about this, I'd tell him the Harley would have to go (be sold) to get money to pay the bills until he finds another job. That will fix the whole problem probably. Give up his bike???? Don't see that happening. All he probably wants to do is ride that thing all the time I'm guessing. As soon as he thinks he's going to lose his baby (the bike- not you) I bet he will be more than willing to work! Besides, do you really want to stay with a man that would ask you to work 2 jobs so he can just run around and "enjoy life"? If it was me and mine said that to me I'd tell him to hit the road- and I don't mean driving a truck! What will he ask of you next?
2016-03-26 22:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you'll get lots of advice on this one, but ultimately, the decision has to be yours. Does it make sound financial sense for you to quit? If your husband can make $3,000 more per month and you'd save $400 on babysitting, will that cover your current income? If you can afford it and want to, do it!
If you need extra income try babysitting for another child or two since you will be home with your own. I did it when my children were pre-school age. It isn't as bad as it sounds if you get the right kids. It gives your children playmates, you get the tax deduction for food, toys, etc., and once you get into a routine there's not much difference between 3 kids or 6. You could still waitress on the weekends if you wanted for even more extra income and adult conversation.
Speaking from experience, I can only stress that it has to be your decision. If this is not what you want, don't let anyone pressure you into it. It will only cause resentment down the line.
2006-06-19 12:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by tsb0614 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOBODY will ever love your child more than you do! Nobody will do a better job raising her than you either. You wouldn't be "dependent" on your husband either really because it's your money too! You should be able to trust him, but if anything happened you could go right back to work.
If you don't like the screaming at your house, find out why your little girl is screaming and do something about it. Maybe she is bored, play with her. Maybe she is tired, give her a nap. You know what to do! You're her mommy!
If he wants you to stay home and you still need your time--and you do, make sure he is willing to watch her whenever you want to go out and have some time for you.
Your daughter might be screaming a lot because the daycare is doing something wrong!!! Daycare is horrible for kids. If you can stay home with her DO IT!!!!
Regarding the people saying you won't feel "productive" at home, Jesum CROW! What more important job is there than raising children? OMG! My mom was a stay-at-home mom and she was DAMN productive! So is my sister-in-law. That's so out of this world to think staying home with kids isn't real work. It's extremely hard work and worth every bit of it. I can't wait to have kids and stay home with them. I worked in daycares before and know what a nightmare they are. They are not for kids, they are for parents. Yuck. Yuck yuck yuck. Kids belong with their mommies, thanks.
2006-06-19 11:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by NoWayOut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had my second child I quit my good job to stay at home with my family. I lost my health insurance, friends, and social life. Guess what? That first year that I stayed at home my husband cheated on me! I could not leave because I had nowhere to go and no job. Now I have to start all over when the economy is so low and there are hardly any good paying jobs out there. Think twice before you leave your job. This only makes you more vulnerable to be stuck.
2006-06-19 11:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by lici05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this is between you and your husband. I would not quit my job. The minute you quit, you'll stop paying into social security and, like you said, you'll lose your health insurance. The other thing is that the longer you're out of the job market, the harder it'll be to get back into it, if you ever need to go back to work.
A lot of women who choose to be stay-at-home moms and years later become divorced are financially devastated because they can't get support from anywhere and they're no longer competitive in the workplace. Perhaps you two ought to talk about it some more in terms of long-term earnings, not just short term earnings.
2006-06-19 11:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should quit. Why just because he wants to save a few dollars, if you happy working and that keeps you busy through the day that's great, and plus you will lose your insurance...If you quit you will stay home and get so bored and feel like you could be doing something productive plus wont your husband have to get you health insurance? so in the end he wont be saving money! So why quit more money is better than being short on cash............
2006-06-19 11:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by araiz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it. You will always have opportunities to do other things in life as good if not better than what you're currently doing. If you end up getting bored at home, I'm sure a good opportunity will come your way that will either make being at home more enjoyable or another position will come along that might better fit your life. As far as missing your co-workers , i'm sure you can keep in touch with them....good luck.
2006-06-19 11:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..if i'd had a husband that said stay at home and take care of our kid, maybe get a weekend job rather than one who said, when are you going to get a real job? i would prolly still be married. and i would have jumped at the chance to stay home and take care of my kid. you dont have to stay in your house all day n do house things, im sure there are plenty of things you could run around n take care of. and just the opportunity to stay home and raise n teach my own children reather than somebody else is (and apparently was) too much for me to ask for. what you choose is all up to you, dont let ne body try to tell you you are wrong for how you feel rite now. i just envy you.
2006-06-19 11:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by mommaslosthermind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a difficult one.....
if you quit, you'll be dependant on your hubby for money. But on the other hand you get to spend lots more quality time with your child(ren).
I think you'll appreciate time spent at home. And i would recomend getting a part time job, if you work when your husbands home, you haven't got to find money for nursery costs. But on the down side, you spend less time with your husband.
2006-06-19 11:52:13 · answer #10 · answered by snow.-.angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and quit. He will be making enough more that you can still have daycare for your daughter and spend you days shopping and keeping in touch with your friends from your current job. Best wishes
2006-06-19 11:52:10 · answer #11 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋