a woman texted my husband's phone asking him if he was coming to her house was i wrong for looking at his phon

Question

yes i know the woman i texted her back pretending to be him and i found out that they were sleeping together. i always heard about it before we got married but you cant believe everything you hear. anyway the girl and i grew up together she sang in my wedding. right now i dont know what to do i really love him but he has cheated several times before the marriage but we were together. we have been together 16 years and married for three. we have three children and he has one on the outside that was conceived before the marriage but in the relationship

Answer 1

That sounds like two separate issues. Prior to knowing a woman had texted his phone.....you had already looked at it. Is there a reason that you are checking the texts? Did you already suspect something was up? Commonly if you suspect something is going on...it is. Secondly, are you positive that the text was meant for your husbands phone? I have had texted from people that were meant to go to someone else. No matter if you were already suspecting something or not.....approach the subject easily with your husband. You do not want to open a can of worms that never existed.

Isn't marriage supposed to be about trust? You have no trust in your husband so you two have more problems than a woman texting your husband. You need to get things out in the open to have a good marriage.

Answer 2

I think it was your intuition that said you to take a look. Be happy you find out now he is doing things behind you back. Observe from now on and check more often, to find out what is going on. I dont think you did a wrong thing. World outside the home it full of temptations, and men are weak and really believe grass is greener on the other side. I dont concider a phone as a private thing, why should u not look at it?

Answer 3

I can't believe you are asking if you are wrong??? I think maybe you should look at it a lot more often!!!

Your husband shouldn't even have messages from another woman unless you know about it or he is running a buisness that requires other women to need him at his house.

You were definatly not wrong at all. It's your husband so it should be both of your phones!!!

Answer 4

Initially, maybe. But obviously something's up. Don't jump to conclusions though. Confront him. Good luck girl! -a-

Answer 5

nope.... some people are going to talk about trust...this isn't the issue here. you should have a right to go throught your mans pants for laundry, or to look at an incoming call on a cell....
and the only reason he should get mad at you, is becuase you caught him.... good luck

Answer 6

he is your hubby right? hell no, you were not wrong. you have every right as his wife to do that. check his phone every day now after that tex message.find out whats really going on. find out who wants to meet him where? ask for an explanation, whats going on with him going ot anyones house. try to call her and find out who she is if he wont tell you. hopfully it was a wrong number.good luck.

Answer 7

It's not nice to spy. You must not trust your husband very much, to have looked in the first place.

Answer 8

no way you have every right to look, when he married you he gave up all his privacy, I look at mu husbands phone all the time. if he has nothing to hide he wont care if you do,

Answer 9

If you have the right to see what she wants, its your business, its your husband, i wouldnt put up with that crap, i would ask him, why is he doing this to you, and ask if he loves you, because obviously hes disrespecting you. So is this chic that he is intimate with. its not right.

Answer 10

Wanna get back at him and text my phone?