that I recently met. We coffee, talk bikes, burn around town, short day trips. He know I am not single. I did just meet another woman that I will probably ride with too, but she lives an hour away.
He tries not to be jealous, but I think he worries. Should I just not tell him and save him thinking about it; should I stop riding with him? Should he just suck it up? I would be jealous if played guitar with another girl, but not if it was with a group. But either way I wouldn't stop him.
(I ask him to play guitar for me and I want to learn. He has zero interest in my bike or ever getting his own)
2006-06-19 11:33:29 · 18 answers · asked by ridethestar 5 in Cars & Transportation ➔ Motorcycles
Like dumping him because he doesn't ride is cool? Nope.
I bet if you tell him that if it really bothers him you will make an effort not to go riding with him and find some girls, he will probably say that it is not really a big deal.
Just keep with the reasurring that he is the only one for you. Obviously you are together for other reasons. He may just be not interested because he doesn't know a lot about them. That may change over time. But you can't choose who you are connected to based on your bike.
Your bike is your thing. It gives you a reason to be somewhere without him if need be. I know it is hard to choose between spending time with him and spending time on the bike, but hopefully you can find that balance.
If he gets where he is upset at you riding, then that can't be tolerated. You support his passion, he must support yours.
If the riding guy sparks your interest more, then you don't have enough stability with the first guy.
2006-06-28 20:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by ruletheworld 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I ride and so does my wife, we ride together but if I have something else I need to do she won't go riding without me, just a matter of respect. I would not mind if she went riding with our group without me but those are guys I know very well and trust implicitly. Your boyfriend doesn't know this guy and wether or not he can trust him, it's probably not you he is worried about it's the other guy. Let them meet and maybe it will put your boyfriend's mind at ease.
2006-06-19 12:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by Fartblossom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Harry told Sally, Guys cannot be "friends" with girls ... there's always that sexual tension.
This is true.
Either ride in groups, or with a girlfriend, or alone. But if you keep hanging out with bikerboy, chatting and doing daytrips without your main squeeze, you're heading for a breakup.
I'm not saying give up riding, mind you. Keep on riding, by all means. Just be aware that for the guy you are coffee-ing, talking, burning and doing day trips, you are actually DATING.
Seeya
2006-06-20 00:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by Grendle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is rarely based on the behaviour of one's partner, most often it's a sign of ones own insecurity... as he has little interest in riding, that is obviously a part of your life that he will never be able to properly share with you... you should make a real effort to show him that he has nothing to worry about, but you shouldn't have to give up something that important for anyone... if he really loves you he should understand that.
2006-06-19 11:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by nikkoj1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moderation is key, but really, he should be ok with a balanced approach here. My girlfriend didn't especially appreciate my bike until she rode, now we go together. But I wasn't riding with another girl- she just didn't always like the seclusion. I guess that is what I would wonder about- is it that you're doing something on your own, or that it's with another dude?
Talk it out with him, that's the best action.
2006-06-25 14:37:51 · answer #5 · answered by bkfd202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not married, so you are single. It is apparent that you and your boyfriend have some interests that are not shared and you sound like neither of you are totally committed to the other. At this time maybe it would be better just to say that you and he are dating, not necessarily boyfriend and girlfriend. It may be that neither of you are ready for a permanent relationship right now. If you just try to be good friends for a while, then a lasting relationship will grown from it, if you are both really meant for each other. In the meantime, have fun riding!
2006-06-19 11:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by cassandradl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing things with him that boyfriends and girlfriends do:
"We coffee, talk bikes, burn around town, short day trips."
Especially the 'short day trips'. Don't blame him for being uncomfortable. It's a part of your life he can not share.
He may have no interest in motorcycles, but YOU interest him. Maybe there is something closely related that the two of you can do together? Mountain biking, perhaps?
Have fun!
2006-06-19 11:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by aross07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldn't ride with another guy. He probably doesn't like your riding because its stupid and dangerous and he doesn't want to see you get hurt.
If you were my girlfriend you would already be gone
2006-06-19 11:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by faqsheepdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of your b***h and find a guy who rides because if you can't enjoy riding with him you can't enjoy the things you love to do boyfriends come and go but if you ever own a bike you will always own a bike
2006-06-19 12:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can only tell you about my life / married 22 years now.
If my wife hides something from me, she has a reason, and I won't like it - the ONLY time we fight is when she hides something OR if she ignores me too much / IE: TOO much time riding with these people (girl or guy) / there are some people she knows (knew) and I did not trust them, she does not see them or talk to them - there were people she didn't trust, I do not see them or talk to them.
Relationship means commitment and sacrifice
Divorce means (normally) selfishness.
Your call / your choice / your life.
GL
2006-06-19 11:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by theleb63 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋