I have been married to my wife for almost eight years now and we have three children. We were both virgins when we met and neither of us have had sex with anyone else. I love my wife very much, but I have want to experience sex with another woman. Our sex life is good, but I feel like I am missing something. Any suggestions?
2006-06-19 11:01:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think it is based on the number of years together but there are times when things start to look a little less spontaneous, less sparked than we would like. I saw the itch come up in my relationship after 3 years, 4 years and now 10. It happens, just try to work through it. The itch never lasts long enough to make doing anything crazy worthwhile.
2006-06-19 11:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not take seven years to reach that point, but yes, it can be very real for most. You're a married man for a reason, and that means that you are not missing anything. Having sex with numerous partners is a wonderful fantasy, but even a quick, anonymous affair means you have to have some level of communication with your potential sex partner. What I mean is, you still have to meet this person (lie to your wife about where you are), talk to her, maybe compliment her looks (Do you want your wife to know that you think she looks better than her?), give her something (prostitute= money, affair=flowers, dinner, etc), and pray to God that you don't contract a disease which you will pass along to your wife. Or, you might get found out. Yes, the local snoop sees you going into some motel with another woman, your wife will be humiliated.
Sex comes with a lot of baggage and it is never, ever without consequence. You chose your wife because she is the only person for you. Sex with other women does not and can not replace everything else your wife does for you or means to you.
Will this woman bear your children? Or will she tell you to go to the doctor because she thinks that suspicious mole on your back may be cancer? The list goes on. Your love is too precious to waste on a few moments of pleasure.
Spice up your own sex life. Watch some videos and get some ideas. Buy some "toys" and have fun together. But don't think for one second that your missing anything because a lifetime of happiness with someone you love is worth far more than an orgasm. Trust me.
2006-06-19 12:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Grudge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people who posted before me were right, but the true origin of the term comes from the fact that according to the US Census Bureau, the majority of American divorces happen in the seventh year of marriage. Therefore, the phrase kind of means that cheating becomes a "scratch" that one has to "itch" after being in a marriage for so long. But just because this IS the average, doesn't mean it applies to everyone. The Seven Year Itch is also the name of a play from the 1950s of the same name.
2016-05-20 03:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the 7 year itch is for real BUT, that doesn't mean go out and scratch it. The grass is not always greener on the other side. You married your wife and lost your virginity to her for a special reason. Wanting to experience sex with another woman because you feel like you're missing something means you're thinking with the wrong head. God designed marriage to be sacred and one of the joyous rewards for married people is to have sex WITH EACH OTHER ONLY. What if you catch a disease and the symptoms don't show up right away. There are diseases out there that can travel through condoms, that should be scary enough alone. Stick with having sex with your wife, PLEASE. It's not fair to her that she trusted you to give her virginity to you, bare 3 of your children, and love you, if you go out and have sex with someone else just because you're missing out. I would like for you to please talk with your wife and see if she will agree to maybe spice things up a little bit. Put your heads together create some new positions, or buy some flavored body massage oils. Talk to her and tell her what you think you would like, and ask her to share with you what new things she might be interested in. I hope things will go well with the both of you.
2006-06-19 11:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 17 years, and no, I don't believe the 7-year itch is for real, BUT there are times during marriage that you may feel that you are missing out. If you are committed to your relationship, then it is a good idea to search for things that could be fulfilling that are not going to cause you to break your marriage vows. Another thing that really works for me is that when I start feeling that I wish I had someone/something different, I give extra attention to my spouse and my relationship (i.e., plan a romantic evening, cook a special dinner, etc.)
Look at this time as an opportunity to make your marriage better, and you WILL get past it and feel more in love with your spose than ever.
Good luck to you!
2006-06-19 11:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mistress T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, very real..comes in on the average at 7 years, but give it a + or - of one year. All 'strange' starts to look good, sex grows stale at home, and you start thinking about the perfect climax! Sorry, dude, ain't no such thing. All you will get is a notch in your belt and a rolling pin on your head. IT just ain't worth the trouble, cause you find that all you really want is sitting home. The real trick here is to come up with ideas to turn the stale into excitment and romance! If you think the 7 years itch is bad, just wait until year 11 !!!!
2006-06-19 11:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have what most of us are missing right now. Do you have any idea how lucky you are? And you would mess that up for a piece of strange? Do you really love her? Could you let her get some too? That's only fair, you know. Don't do it please!!! If she finds out you will spend the rest of your life trying to get back what you threw away. If you need a better sex life try something new with your wife.
2006-06-19 11:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by DJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I do think the 7yr itch is for real - for some reason things get crazy around your 7th yr being married. If you marriage is good and you love your wife I wouldn't recommend cheating on her. Talk to your wife about how you are feeling and try to add some excitement and spice into your marriage.
2006-06-19 11:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you're wife felt the same. Would you let her experience also?? My guess is probably not! If you have a good thing, why would you want to ruin it? If you love your wife, like you say, then respect her. In the meantime, you should try different things with her to make it more interesting! Good Luck!
2006-06-19 11:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by dbeautiful1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems you have a nice marriage, and it would seem like a shame to throw it all away on an urge would it not? Believe me, we men always think the grass is greener on the other side, but it is not. You risk throwing it all away on an urge, you will hurt her immensely if she was to find out and she might just take the kids an leave you. Do you want to risk that? Its an itch and you know it, just like the doctor says ...don't scratch on it, it will become infected, listen to the doctor............
2006-06-19 11:13:21 · answer #10 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋