My boyfriend is wiccan and i'm not, if we should have children together what should we teach them?

Question

even though i don't believe in organized religion, i still believe in god

Answer 1

everything-doesnt matter what you believe why would you want to limit their choices-lots of love old hippie here

Answer 2

As long as you respect each others beliefes, you should be ok. Children should be given all the information they need. Personally, my 6 year old has taken an interest in some of the "Wiccan" things which I do. He gets involved because he has chosen to. Although he has learned about the Christian God at school and has decided for himself that he believes in that God. Make sure your children don't have anything forced on them. Teach them about what each of you believe and also make sure they know they have the choice to believe whichever they choose, whether it is your, his or another belief.
Having different beliefs should not be an issue in any relationship(my partner and I, my sister and her partner, my mum and my dad, are all couples with different beliefs but there are no arguments or anything), obviously you accept each other's or you would not be together in the first place. I do things for some of the Wiccan festivals and I give my son the choice as to whether he wants to be involved because I know he is capable of making the decision. Even if he does join in, I still make sure he knows and understands what I am doing and why but also that he is free to believe whatever he wants. I always say things like "this is what I believe" and "some people believe this".

Answer 3

Don't bring them up into any religion, let them find there own path.

I know it can be hard, my ex is a Jehovas Witness and wants someone of that religion, and if i was the same religion i know we'd be together like a shot (and heck would i love that!),

But i dont believe in bringing children up into any religion, i think it restricts them, for example if they grow up into a certain structure, they may feel trapped by it when there older.

Let them explore all religions as they grow up.

They will probably become a Wiccan anyway because they will see daddy doing his thing and most kids want to do as mummy and daddy do

Answer 4

I believe that children should be given a choice in religion, as I was. I raise my children with love and understanding, we celebrate as many holidays as we can find information on, talk about as many religions as we know and keep several religious texts in the house. My husband and I are of different faiths, but we support each other and there is no controversy when it comes to raising the the kids, we talk out everything.

Answer 5

What the heck is wiccan? Whatever it is, it sounds stupid. Either way, why teach your children anything? Why not let them decide for themselves what they want to practice once they are old enough if anything? Give them the information on all religions and explain your beliefs about each religion but let them decide. Please don't brainwash your children a certain way.

Answer 6

You should teach them that Daddy is a wiccan and Mummy is not. Beyond that, you should teach them to be kind to other people, and tolerant of other beliefs. You should also teach them that they should learn something about what other people believe.

Answer 7

Do what I did. I am a witch, but I let my kids go to church with their friends and let them explore the different religions there are. I have let them make their own choice. So far my oldest (21) is pagan, my youngest is still undecided, but I don't encourage one over the other. I was forced to church as a child and have my own problems with christianity but it is not my place to tell them how to worship. As long as it doesn't hurt them or others support their choice and they will love and respect you for it.

Answer 8

You should both teach them your own beleifs and let them choose for themselves. My children are taught by their grandmother about the Christian God and by me about the Pagan Gods and my boyfriend is atheist and they know for sure that he thinks it's all foolishness, but he respects it. They go to church sometimes, and they go to Sabbats and Esbats. It does them no harm, it broadens their horizons. They are the wisest children you will know.

Answer 9

Make very sure that your different beliefs aren't one day going to split you up. Raising children from different viewpoints is extremely difficult.

If you're really sure, tell them what he believes and tell them what you believe. Tell them what other people believe and let them make up their own minds with no pressure.

Answer 10

I think that's a fundamental question WAAAAY before you even marry, if you want children at all. It's a little more serious than Presbyterian and Methodist.

Answer 11

I don't think you should impose anything on the kids, observe the holidays and let them know what each of you believe but don't pressure them into anything, they'll choose what they want in their own time.