he is my best friend and he has just told me he doesn't want to be around me anymore. I think this is because I have been releasing my stress on him (usually unfairly). how can I win him back?
2006-06-19 10:48:18 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My dear friend: We have all fallen into the trap at one stage or another in our lives when we have 'DUMPED' all our frustrations, anger, bitterness, resentment, jealousy, and God only knows what else into the laps of our 'Best Friends': thinking that because they are our Closest, & Best Friends, they can handle it, they understand, they can cope: when infact sometimes (most times) it just becomes too much!! Especially if you have stresses of your own to deal with, which most people do!!
Give him a few days to cool off, then you can try to make some ammends by writing him a card saying sorry!!
Apologise for burdening him with all your troubles...
Point out to him that you know you have been unfair, that you are sorry, but that you valued him so much as a friend, you only did so as you felt you had nowhere else to turn, and needed someone to stress too!!
I can't tell you what to say: after all he is 'Your' friend, but you get my jist... but writing/e-mail, rather than text/phone... as paper is patient, does not interupt, answer back, or look bored to death: and gives you the chance to 'Think', before you speak!!
Good luck, and I hope your problems in all areas are resolved soon!! God bless you.
2006-06-19 11:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by englands.glory 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Open up and be honest with your feelings. Why have you been stressed? Can you work it out? You will need to repair the trust and let him know you are truly sorry for sounding out on him but it is always those closest to you suffer when things get tough as they are the only ones you trust to care.
Gt help to handle whatever troubles you have, reach out to your friend and never let a misunderstanding stand in the way of a good friendship as good friends are so valuable.
2006-06-19 18:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by The Wandering Blade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try giving your friend a few days to cool off. If that is really hard to do, try writing him a letter about your feelings to get it off your chest, but don't give it to him. Then think about what you want to say to him. It might help to write that out as well. If he will meet you to talk (in person or over the phone), you can tell him how you feel and apologize for what you think you did wrong. If he won't talk to you, you could email him your feelings. In the end, it's up to him to decide whether or not he will be friends with you.
2006-06-19 17:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by thecentrecannothold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I rowed with a mate at work and sent him a very girly card, covered in flowers. Broke the ice a treat. Now we're cool.
2006-06-20 09:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by AdeyAde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋