My mom is driving me nuts. First she wants me to move out, then she gets mad at me because I did. Now, she wants me to just drop all of my 4th of July plans because she and my grandmother are driving up to NC to see my grandfather and she wants me to go instead of taking my car to the beach. My grandfather is sick so I'm not complaining about going to see him, it's the way my mom is handling it. She's demanding that I drive to NC. Then she said, " You may not live under my roof, but you still have to abide by my rules." I'm pretty sure it doesn't work that way. I'm flying out of Pensacola for a trip to Europe that same week!!!! I have to get down there and she wants to leave for NC on the day before the 4th. She won't even listen to me. Someone give me some advice on how to handle this before I blow a fuse. I am losing my temper and fast!!!!!!
2006-06-19 10:18:31 · 7 answers · asked by BamaBelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Does she pay your bills? If not, you can do whatever you want to do. If I were in that situation, I would go visit my grandfather whenever I could before the trip to Europe, go to Europe and have fun.
2006-06-19 10:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother that you have plans and that you will not be going when she starts throwing a fit tell her that you love her and that you will talk to her later and hang up the phone then turn off the ringer. Go on with what you planned and don't feel bad this is just a phase your mom is going through but she needs your help, she is not having an easy time adjusting to you being an adult and on your own if you allow her to treat you like your a little girl then that is how she will treat you. You as an adult have to stand your ground and say no. If you don't help her to get use to the change now you will regret it later. Because then she will think that her behavior is okay even later on when you get married and have kids. so think about it.
2006-06-19 20:19:05 · answer #2 · answered by windchaser2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your mom that you are flattered by her wanting to spend time with you over the 4th of July however you have other commitments that you can not break at this time and will spend another weekend with her when you return. She is just power trippin right now and guess what even when you are not living under there roof it never ends. When your married they get pissed if you pick spending the holidays with your husbands family over them she just needs to deal with it and if you put her in her place and tell her Mom deal with my decision and carry your plans through she will be pissed at first but when it is all over she will respect you more for standing up for yourself.
2006-06-19 17:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by George T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is totally out of line if you are over the age of 18 she can't make you do anything. You'd be an adult, all you is tell that you have plans that week. Then say I'll visit grandpa when I get back. Always try to compromise with mom's.
2006-06-19 17:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Ice G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to love your mom doesnt mean that you have to live by her rules if you are over 18 and living on your own and my mom was like that and it will finally come to a head so you might as well head it off now. you should always treat your mother with respect. but your gonna have to tell her your gonna do what you planned and live your life, and ask her to give you more notice next time any way you do it do it with love mothers love thier children and maybe she doesnt know shes being over bearing any way you might as well hit the nail on the head now as to wait because it will eventually come to head and a bad one if you dont handle it now, because exploding on your mom is never gonna be any good. and i cant imagine any good coming from it.
2006-06-19 17:32:24 · answer #5 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your over 18 she is not yur rule maker
2006-06-19 17:23:53 · answer #6 · answered by duh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! thank God my mom is not like that- i wood have flipped out
2006-06-19 17:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋