My 18 year old sister has 2 kids, who are in state custody. She's trying to get them back, but things don't look good for her. Her boyfriend (the father of the kids) is a 30 y/o alcoholic who's on probation. My sister and her boyfriend have just split up. My sister is looking for a new apartment right now, along with starting back at her job (she was on maternity leave) and finishing highschool. She and her (ex)boyfriend seem to have endless financial problems.
My husband and I have offered to adopt the kids (which my sister would be ok with). But I think it would be too much for us right now. We're moving to a different continent in 2 weeks, where he'll be starting a new job, and I'll be starting university. So even though we have a stable home, I don't think either of us would have enough time for 2 kids.
My question is..if you have any advice on what my sister can do? Or if you have any advice on whether or not (or how it would be possible) that I take the kids.
2006-06-19 10:03:50 · 7 answers · asked by Peaches M 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow. State Custody may be the best option.
Are there any other family members that will be on the same continent as the mother? I'd suggest they may be good candidates.
Will your sister move to your country?
You could all live in the same house and she could earn sweat equity toward rent with you by caring for your home while you work.
She may just need to let the kids stay with the state until she gets back on her feet -- or should I say on the in the first place!
Foster Parents may be the best option for the kids given all the financial problems, young parents, lack of other immediate family within reasonable proximity!
2006-06-19 10:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ken C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you and your sister have family members that may be interested in taking in the children temporarily. Try talking with various family members to see if any are interested. You may have to split the two kids up between family members just in case some think two is too much to handle. In the mean while you and your husband can get settled and get ready for the adoptions. When the two of you are ready you can send for the children. It's better for the children to live with family than be in state custody. Even if they have to be spilt up.
2006-06-19 10:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that your sister can do is to get her life together. If those children mean enough to her, she will do so. As for you and your husband, be honest with yourself; if you are not going to be able to do what is best for those children, then adopting them is not the best idea. Your sister needs to be honest as well; is she going to be the best thing for her children? If she can not answer this unquestionably with a 'yes', then she needs to do the right thing and put them up for adoption so that they can have the kind of life that they deserve.
They didn't ask to be brought into this world; but now that they have been, they deserve the best.
2006-06-19 10:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Amy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are going to a different continent thats quite a trip. tell your sister to get her poop in a group, what was she doing have two kids to a 30 year old anyway? where are your parents? tell her to stay away from the bf, he's obviously no good, either that or take the sister with you and put her butt in university too and let her worry about her own kids.
2006-06-19 10:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness!!!! you ought to have a criminal custody order. instruct the decide which you're searching on your youngster's maximum suitable pastime and instruct that your ex is drug abusive. The courts won't take the youngster far flung from the two one in all you! this is that in case you're truly sparkling and not into drugs. My custody papers have been that he could have the youngsters Sunday and Monday. the 2nd i found out that he replace into making use of, i finished letting the youngsters flow over there... if he needed to push it, i could have had the papers replaced! My teenagers protection is so significant!
2016-10-31 03:37:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well have your sister talk to a soical worker. and explain her concerns . your sister need to stay postive and everything should work out for her. As for you what good would you really be if you dont even have time for yourself. And that will aslo enable your sister to do the right thing .Beside she should be the one that picks her life up and move in the right direction. but don't stop with your support that everything will be just find.
2006-06-19 10:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by TC76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister needs to get herself together and then get her children back.
She needs steady income and a roof over her head.
Good luck to her.
2006-06-19 10:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋