2006-06-19 09:59:20 · 20 answers · asked by britt16 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
depends, I know I would keep the baby, because it was my mistake and I need to take care of my problems
2006-06-19 15:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is to give the baby the best life possible...and that is to allow a couple who is ready and willing to be parents to adopt him/her. I know it is a tremendously difficult thing to do. Especially in our society where people think it is better to terminate a life (even as it is inside the place that should be the safest place on earth...mommy's womb) than to give one up for adoption.
But if you are only 16 you still have so much life to live before taking on the serious (and permanent) challenge and commitment of motherhood. There are many, many couples aching to be parents and not enough women willing to carry through to the end and then allow someone else to be a parent to their child. It is the biggest expression of love a woman (who finds herself pregnant when not ready) can show her child.
Inevitably, when teens (or even young 20s) have babies the parents of the teen are the ones who end up being the real parents. They provide financially, they provide the home, they buy the food, they discipline, they end up babysitting all the time because, obviously, a 16 year old will want to go to dances, parties, sporting events, hang out with friends, etc. It robs the grandparents of being grandparents...they end up being parents again. They shouldn't have to. And it robs the child of seeing what parents really should be like...responsible, mature, etc. It increases the chance that the baby will grow up and repeat the pattern instead of planning pregnancies at a time when they're emotionally and financially capable of handling it. It is very unfair to everyone involved and kind of selfish of the teen mom.
2006-06-19 10:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision should be based on what is best for the baby. If the 16 yr old, the father, and their family can give the baby the best life then keep the child. If not then give the baby up for adoption.
2006-06-19 10:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a 16 year old is capable of raising a baby if she lives a healthy lifestyle and has plenty of family support. I would hate for my daughter to put my grand-baby up for adoption. I would prefer to raise it myself. If a teen is in an unhealthy relationship and has no family to turn to, then adoption is the best choice. I have a friend who is desperate to adopt. There are lots of couples who can't have a child and are waiting....
2006-06-19 10:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by mar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the 16 yr. old's maturity... and their peer group. If you are a mature 16 year old and have a realm of family and friends that love you and will stick with you to help you w/ that child while you FINISH SCHOOL!!!! - I don't think there is anything wrong w/ keeping that baby!
P.S. I am a statistic. I kept my baby - went on to marry his father - we have been married for nearly 13 years & have 4 beautiful chlildren together. - It's tough, don't get me wrong..... there were many rough years, but I completed my education and we are very happy!
2006-06-19 10:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the girl has a strong support group, like parents who will help her, and a boyfriend who won't leave as soon as the baby comes, she should have it. But I'm talking about help to finish school and get a good job, not just to go on welfare and live off social services for ever. You will want to buy things for your child, now and as it grows up, can you afford shoes that cost over $100, music lessons, or anything else your child might want or need? And what if your child isn't born healthy, are you ready to care for a sick child? there are so many things to consider.
2006-06-19 10:07:21 · answer #6 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the 16 year old. Some girls are just born to be mommies and it is natural for them. If there is support from loved ones emotionally and financially than it could be the best thing to ever happen to her, or you.
2006-06-19 10:06:10 · answer #7 · answered by dirtbike mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesnt matter, it depends how she's living and her finanicial status. If shes able to raise this baby and provide for this baby then go ahead. If she knows she isnt able to then give it up for adoption although that choice is much tougher.
2006-06-19 10:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
brittney no i don't but she needs to be ready for whats a head of her. babies are really truely alot of work and require alot of time. not to mention money as well, but your children are well worth everyhting u do in life and are great. 16 is young but if your pregant or another person do what your heart is telling you and not everyon else. be prepared though and good luck
2006-06-19 10:05:07 · answer #9 · answered by Cassandra T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation. Would the baby be taken care of and given every possiablity?
2006-06-19 10:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by Manda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter the age, I waited until I was 29 to have a child...and I still don't think that I was ready, it's all about being able to accept responsibility.
2006-06-19 10:08:13 · answer #11 · answered by sylvergyrlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋