im scared any advice?

Question

ok I have had 2 misscarriages and im pregnant again im scraed to buy a pregnncy test and also to go to the doctor to hear bad news but i am settting an appointment to see my OBGYN but has anyone had multiple misscarriages and had full term pregnancy? Im really scared i haven't told my fiance because i dont wanna get his hopes high then i misscarry. if anyone has any advice i would be very thankful

Answer 1

Look to God and ask him for help. His grace will help you through all things. Go to your Dr and find out why you are having trouble. Seek the prayers of others because the power of prayer does help. You might have to stay off your feet and be careful. I do believe God answers all prayers, even if its not what we want or what we think should happen. Tell your future husband!!!!! He can help you through some of the stress.
Romans 8:28
And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God and are called to his purpose.

Answer 2

I had two miscarriages but know I have three beautiful children and I even was a surrogate for a friend of mine.

Every pregnancy is different. The most important thing is to get to your doctor soon. The sooner you see him/her the sooner they can start to keep an eye on your pregnancy to help make sure everything is okay. There are several things they can do to keep you from miscarrying if they know about the pregnancy soon enough. There are hormones that can help, bed rest and even a surgical procedure to sew the cervix closed if that is the reason for the miscarriages. I am not saying you will need any of these solutions, but seeing the doctor will help calm your fears. Just make sure and let them know you have had several miscarriages already. A good doctor will help calm your fears.

I also recommend you let your fiance in on the situation. If he loves you, he wouldn't want you to suffer alone. Plus, he deserves the opportunity to rejoice and/or morn as much as you do.

I wish you all the best. Cheer up, things will get better.

Answer 3

I'm very sorry for your losses. I just had a miscarriage a few weeks ago and I, like you, am scared to death it will happen again. My doctor told me to come in as soon as I had any symptom of pregnancy and I think you should do the same. I know you might be afraid of what he/she may say, but because of your past miscarriages it makes it that much more important to go. Keeping a positive attitude is key. Don't go into this pregnancy expecting the worst. Tell your fiancé, he is the father and deserves to know.

A friend of mine had four miscarriages before having three children that are all above the age of eighteen now. So yes, you can carry a baby to full term after having miscarriages.

I wish you the best of luck with this baby. Say your prayers, keep your chin up and most of all take care of yourself. Hopefully soon you will be asking if you should pump or breastfeed. May god bless you and your baby.

Answer 4

Sweetheart, don't worry, everything will be alright.

Being scared is normal..

Just take the test, you'll feel better.

I'm not a nurse but I used to work in an obgyn clinic, so I saw this scenerio many times.

I saw many women have multiple miscarraiages one right after another and then having a full term pregnancy.

Miscarriages are totally normal. It's just the body's way of disposing a fetus that isn't developing normally. Your body wouldn't do it just because.

Your chances of getting pregnant after a miscarriage are also very high.

You have to tell your fiance, you can't go through this alone and he deserves to know. Marriage is all about honesty.

The good thing is that you're getting pregnant!

Unlike me, I haven't had any luck :(

But go to your appointment...

Ask questions....

Write them down so you wouldn't forget...

Good Luck!

Answer 5

Visiting the doctor as soon as you suspect you are pregnant is a good idea. My mother had a situation where she miscarried. She got pregnant again and again miscarried. The third time, she had been examined as the third miscarriage occurred and they found the problem was actually due to the FIRST miscarriage. They did a D-n-C and treated her for scarring from infection problems that occurred after the first and she finally became pregnant again-- that's how my brother and I came along. They told her she would have miscarried every pregnancy from the first one on had she not went when miscarrying the third. So find a doctor that will get to the bottom of your miscarriages ASAP-- they might even prevent a miscarriage.

Answer 6

I have had a miscarriage and I have had two children right after. Don't panic, just go to the doctor and find out. Let them know about your medical history and do what you need to do so that you can have a baby. The worst thing is not knowing, it could do more damage than you think. Take someone supportive with you and maybe it might ease whatever comes your way.

Answer 7

Many women have had successful pregnancies after multiple miscarriages. The best thing you can do right now is RELAX. Stress won't help. *smiles*

Setting an appointment with your OBGYN is the best thing you can do, but I wouldn't recommend keeping it from your fiance. I understand you don't want him to feel hurt should you miscarry, but I think he's just as likely to feel hurt should he find out you chose to carry the burden on your own rather than allowing him to support you.

Answer 8

This is based purely on my own experience and theoretical speculation and I'm sure many folks will disagree, but I'm not a medical professional so definitely don't quote me on this and definitely rely on professionals when it comes to your health.

It is very strange to me that doctors or books don't seem to catch this and there aren't any clinical tests going on to prove this, but of all of the miscarriages I've known about there is always one factor that seems to be constant:

Weight. Every miscarriage I've witnessed or heard about occurs in friends or relatives who are very thin and are often extremely picky eaters.

Think about putting on some weight and eating really well! Might help.

Answer 9

Yes sweetie I have had an abortion and about 3 or 4 miscarriages and now I am pregnant again I'm 10 weeks and I am fine just go to the OBGYN and he can give you meds. or a shot so you wont miscarry again... Yes you need to tell your man bcuz he has a right to know either way... Don't stress bcuz that puts stress on the baby... Just take it easy and you'll be fine... Good Luck... Need to talk more email me...

Answer 10

Definitely see your doc. It is possible to miscarry and later carry a pregnancy to full term. Does your doctor know what caused your previous miscarriages? That could make a difference in the success of your next pregnancy.

Answer 11

my mom's first try with my father resulted in a miscarriage. instead of giving up, they tried again resulting in a pregnancy that came to term....me. my advice is don't lose hope just because u had 2 miscarriages. the miscarriage shouldn't stop u from wanting to get pregnant. it should make u extra cautious in ur everyday activities. i can't stress this enough....GO TO THE DOCTOR. it is better if you go to the doctor and explain ur situation. that way if you are pregnant then he/she will be able to help u carry this baby to term. don't give up...my parents didn't and because they didn't u have one more answer to pick as a best answer..."hopefully it's me" she said to herself as she wished the person trying to have a kid good luck. lol. good luck.