2006-06-19 09:25:32 · 19 answers · asked by Cocoa 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's when you give, give, and give, but when you ask a favor of them and they don't want to help you out, then you are being used.
However, part of every friendship is being used. You use them and they use you. That's a good friendship.
2006-06-19 09:29:57 · answer #1 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, if this person is only interested when she needs something that you can help her do, its a good indicator that you are being used..... I know because I have one that up until last week I was there for and finally I woke up and said no more.... She has been in my life for over 21 years and for the last nine years our lives have become increasingly opposite of the others... Nothing in common anymore... She is three years older than me and is going through a divorce so I have cut her a lot of slack over the last three months... But after realizing she is only calling to get a ride to work, last week when she called, I never returned her call.. I felt really guilty but I listened to my hubby and he simply said, enough of her using you, it is time to stop, don't call her back and she will get the hint. So I listened to him and I still have not heard from her..... But I still feel bad, I guess that is why some of us get walked on. I have tried to help her, even offered to take her to buy a car when she got money from a settlement but I guess she just wanted to spend it another way...... That is where I was able to listen to my hubby and stop letting her use me...... I hope the best for you..... Take care......
2006-06-19 09:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by ~ Rio ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another friend, Make sure the friend that you bring knew you before the backstabbing "friend". Neways, go to a club or something, the three of you, and see how the "fake friend" acts. You just act as if your having fun with the "new" friend. If she keeps stepping off and ****, or doesn't seem to be having fun or wanting to hang with the two of you, then she's probably fake. Girls always know when other girls have something up there sleeves. Go with you intuition.
2006-06-19 09:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by Bizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that you are feeling "used", it's not a good feeling. But try not to jump to conclusions. Sometimes we feel "used" when it's really not the case. As hard as this sounds, try to take emotions out of it and think objectively. For Example...
Ask yourself this simple question: "If I didn't provide ________ (fill in the blank) for this person, would he/she still call or hang out with me?" If the answer is "no", then it may be this person only values you for whatever this thing is (above) that you have to offer; this person may not value you for the many other qualities that one typically looks for in a friend like companionship, support, fun, etc.
Hope that helps, and good luck.
2006-06-19 09:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Extra $$ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's always all about them and they really don't want to listen to anything you have to say. If they are just interested in talking about themselves and doing what they want to do and don't want to listen to you or ever give you a chance to choose the activity or venue. If they seem to be trying to get something out of you...for example, access to another person, a ride in your car, money, etc. etc.
Hope this helps.
If you are being used, demand respect and equality or cut the ties. You can only be used if you allow it.
2006-06-19 09:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Friends do use each other; however, it is mainly for support of ideas, goals, and reaching objectives.
If you feel betrayed, you have a fiend -- not a friend. Although, sometimes, it can be explained in such a way as to help you in a decision or choice process. It hurts, either way.
2006-06-19 09:29:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they like being around people you know more than you, but they wouldn't be able to hang around those people if not for you, that may be a sign. If they like you because of something you have, own, or have access to, and/or they act indifferent around you near their other friends, that's a strong sign that they might be using you.
2006-06-19 09:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by Strange Design 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MANDY hit it right on the nose!
From the answers I read, people have wrong ideas about freindship! Probably why it's so hard to find a real friend in this greedy, selfish world.
2006-06-19 09:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is not the same and what you may think as your friend using you may just be maybe your too nice and giving and they are not the same. Doesn't mean that they are using you.
2006-06-19 09:46:43 · answer #9 · answered by Quotethis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a lot of friends that have used me becuse i have a lot of money if they only hang out with you in public but won't hang with u at your house then they might be or if they show u off then but wwon't just talk to u probualy
2006-06-19 09:31:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋