Me and Niharika live really close to eachother. I'm Hispanic and she's Indian... My house is bigger than hers and I live in a very safe neighborhood.. my parents and her parents enjoy socializing with eachother and everything. Niharika's dad always lets her spend the night at her Indian friends' houses... but not mine! I think this is VERY wrong and I don't know what to do! It's making me turn into a person that doesn't have a girlfriend to spend the [night at my house and gossip about guys and stuff.. and I can't find any better friend than her!! How do I confront this? What do I do????? I wanna be a normal american girl!!
2006-06-19 09:18:27 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Most likely, her parents are very into their culture. I had a Korean friend who's family was the same way. They are trying to teach their children the things that they learned as they were growing up, and want their household and rules to be the same as well. I wouldn't take it personally, although it is frustrating.
If you ever visit her at her home, I would suggest trying to learn something from her parents about their culture. You'd be surprised what you can learn, and you'll find that they are probably very nice people ... just from the 'old country'! :)
2006-06-19 09:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie Mommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have u let your parents know how u feel about this situation? If not then u really need to tell them. I would have your parents talk to her parents then maybe something will be done. I just don't think they would give you a straight or honest answer if you try to confront them on your own. Maybe you could go with your parents while they discuss the situation with her parents.
2006-06-19 09:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy you're married to is both egocentric and overbearing and a administration freak who has no understand for you in any respect..........get some money mutually and get again to america of a, the position you may divorce this 'human being' ........does your son have a US passport or replaced into he born in India and is an Indian citizen? ought to he end you leaving with your son? only a idea! i'd p.c.. your bags, watch for him to bypass on one of his lacking journeys, then p.c.. up all his issues out of your mothers and fathers domicile and drop them off at his mothers and fathers in the previous you go away...merely get any information and copies of his agency/economic money owed so that you'll get baby help from him. reliable success............bypass and do not seem again
2016-10-14 07:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by graviett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a normal american girl doesn't relate to having a gf to spend the night. and to be honest? there's not much you can do, it's her father, and as you may experience, family comes first. Besides, don't worry, you got lots of time to talk to her, i know it's not the same, but hey, it could be worse..... so enjoy what you have, and don't challenge her dad, nor talk bad, just say "it's too bad your dad wont let you stay over". You must respect the "father" figure, even though you don't agree with him.
2006-06-19 09:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by RALR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really common some people from other country's they might have a certain tradition or religion that's keeping them from doing that you have to understand if it's their religion but if it's not they are probably scared and not used to that with hispanic girls or maybe they ae just plain rascists but whatever the reason i it's about they're religion respect it if it's not i say be straight up with them have your mom talk to them and work it out that's logical to me.
2006-06-19 09:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you can have your parents work it out..i dunno why if u watch bend it like beckham its kind of the same story they are very family orientted and want the best for their children..but if ur parents talk they shud be able to work it out..just say to urs that u really want her to spend the night cuz shes ur bestest best friend and if they could talk to hers and explain this.....i think even they think alot of girls are lesbians and they know indian girls are less likely to be so if it gets out that their daughter sleeps at girls houses they might think she's like that..good luck
2006-06-19 09:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is afraid because you are of a different racial backround. its ok for the dad to feel like that...dont take it out on yourself. ask him to give you a chance, cause you are just another human being that looks different than her, so whats wrong with that?
2006-06-19 09:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send them an email explaining your thoughts
2006-06-19 09:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by oldbuckhorn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are som raciest fools, forget them and go to your friends house.
2006-06-19 09:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
indian familes are very orthodox.
2006-06-19 09:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by srihari_reddy_s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋