times...Let's just say they were acquaintance/Friends...so you say we don't talk about that painful time anymore...." don't you think they should "get it" and leave you alone especially if you walked away????what is wrong with some people???/answers from over 30 years old please!!!
2006-06-19 09:00:21 · 8 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you have told someone that you don't want to talk about a subject that is painful to you, and you have told them in point blank terms that they can not mistake for anything else... then for them to continue bringing it up is rude and immature, and I suggest limiting exposure to this person, and finding new friends. That is a very insensitive thing to do, and I wouldn't call this person a friend.
2006-06-19 09:03:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry im not 30 but i completly understand what you mean. Last year a family member died and im now ok with it and people still feel the need to bring it up. The best thing u can do is just say you prefer not to talk about it otherwise just dont talk to the person anymore.
2006-06-19 16:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by andrea lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what makes people like that. They just seem to want to "stir the pot" all the time. Family members seem to be the worst about it too. If you've told them it's painful and even walked away from the conversation then they are truly heartless. Just try to avoid them I guess or the other option is to go off on them. Try kindness first, then blast them. They deserve it.
2006-06-19 16:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by sparkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they trying to get you to deal with it all the time, or what? If you haven't dealt with the painful thing yet, then get some professional help. Then maybe they will back off. They just might want to help you get through a bad time.
But if you HAVE dealt with this painful time, and they still persist to want to talk about it, then get through to them. Look them straight in the eye, tell them that if they value your friendship that they need to back off, or things could be over with. Good luck, hope this helps.
2006-06-19 16:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had to deal with that before. I simply fix them with a frigid glare, and ask what possible use could this topic be to them.
I then point out the fact that to continously bring it up is rude, and they must be truly be bored to rehash old events over and over. If it's warranted, I tell them I consider it harassment.
I then walk away without another word.
2006-06-19 16:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by Catowner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people try and hold you by your past forgetting the things you are reaching for because of their own selfishness. I would reevaluate my friendships if I were you. Because when you have a real friend they don't want to see you hurt.
2006-06-19 16:03:50 · answer #6 · answered by missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 34 and female... yes they should understand, but if they don't then they are not your friend and are just trying to hurt you.....get out of that friendship.....
2006-06-19 16:04:18 · answer #7 · answered by wayladuley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are MORONS!!!!!
Mix with better people Please!
2006-06-19 16:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by angieasee64 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋