2006-06-19 08:52:08 · 12 answers · asked by Lizbeth 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
No, they can not change if they don't think/believe they have a problem.
2006-06-19 08:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Salvation is a gift, Eph 2:8-9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you thought you didn't have a problem would you try to fix a problem you didn't think you had? Nobody is going to change if they feel there is no need. Haven't you ever heard the saying "if it ain't broke, don't fix it?"
This person will never change if they aren't willing to admit they have a problem. If you are a victim of abuse from this person, your best chance of survival is to leave and do it now. Tell as many friends and loved ones about the abuse as you can and make sure you report any and all abuse you suffer at this persons hands to the proper authorities. It is much easier to leave if you have carefully documented the abuse and you have friends and family to back you up and support you when you are unwilling or unable to go the distance. Surround yourself with those who will love you, care for you and help you remain strong and steadfast.
Good luck.
2006-06-19 09:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by MJL613 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You cannot psyche yourself out of a mental problem. You must confront the problem headon by admitting to it. This is the program that AA uses---first a person must admit that he or she is an alcoholic before treatment can begin. If a person knows that he has a problem with violence, then he/she cannot deny it. If a person has a problem with violence but refuses to admit it, then he or she is in denial---he or she is decieving himself/herself. Denial is quite common, almost universal in dealing with addictions and mental illness. Denial does not improve anything---it makes the problem worse because the individual is giving himself/herself license to continue in the problem. If this behavior is not arrest, then the problem can become permanent. I am speaking from experience as a minister who deals with a wide range of personality types and people from many walks of life. If you feel that you have a problem with abuse, please get help as soon as possible. Your local mental healath society can lead you to competant help. Support groups are wonderful at dealing with mental health issues. In my opinion they can do more for you initially than any other system. Ultimately, though, your life and that of everyone else's boils down to what you think of Jesus and will you allow him into your life. Psycotherapy can do only so much, then Jesus must take over and finish the job. Jesus loves you and he died for you. He wants to help you, but you must let him.
2006-06-19 09:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people abuse others because of the abuse they have gone through. People are taught to abuse, they aren't born that way. With a great deal of therapy, abusers can be transformed,---but if they aren't willing to face their own hurt and be healed, they will continue to hurt others.
2006-06-19 10:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Wondering 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you chain a 250-pound former NFL linebacker hired for the purpose to their ankle. He will stop them from abusing drugs, alcohol, children . . .
2006-06-19 09:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Stuart King 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to my studies and learning experiences, an abuser cannot change if he/she does not first acknowledge that he/she has a problem.
2006-06-19 08:57:45 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly diva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think change is possible only when there is a full understanding of an action.without understanding there is no reason to change most are in denial.
2006-06-19 09:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by writer05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they do not feel they have a problem why would they seek help to change?
2006-06-19 08:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by jaemers24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, only if they admit they have a problem and earnestly want and ask for help.
2006-06-26 08:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe only to a certain extent. Although I still believe counseling is needed.
2006-06-19 08:57:26 · answer #10 · answered by Lady_32308 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋