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Question

I wanted to find out one crucial fact. When you were younger (around my age – 18), did you go against your wishes when you wanted something and knew that it would do you harm? What do you think, is it better to do something and then feel pity about that than doing nothing but feeling pity as well? Does a person have to tell him/herself “Stop” when all the others are doing this but he/she doesn’t? I’m not talking about smoking, taking drugs, whatever. Just in general – doing something as getting new experience even if it is bad.

Answer 1

Might as well do it now while you're young enough to recover and you still have plenty of time ahead to correct mistakes

Answer 2

I think that the potentially long-term effects of doing something that you know is bad, is too much of a risk to take that gamble. If you KNOW something is bad, I would stay away. Sure you will feel pity. Making tough decisions aren't easy but living with the consequences of a bad decision can be ever worse.

I think that it is fine to get new experiences, but if you already know something is bad, you probably shouldn't do it. Sometimes, you may make a decision and not know what to expect and in that case, you just deal with the outcome.

While I do believe that our experiences help shape and grow us, I would do some things over again if I had the chance when it comes to doing something I knew was harmful.

Answer 3

No, I did not do something against my own wishes. If I did not want to do something, I could never see the point in doing it. For whom? For what? As for doing something that could actually harm you - are you into self-mutiliation?
Based on the idea that you should experience any new experience you could actually argue that you should steal, kill, take drugs you have no interest in, have high-risk sex without condoms, and many other self-harming (and likely illegal) things.
I find, looking back on myself under 30, that I do not miss anything. How can you miss what you didn't wish for? And as for regrets - you might just get enough of these even if you only do the things you actually want to do.
Why regret having done something you actually didn't want to do in the first place? Look for things you want to do. do them, and you will regret some of them anyway. But at least you had a good reason to have done them!
Good luck!

Answer 4

IMO.... we all know the difference between right and wrong. At 18 your enough of an adult to know if what you are doing is a bad thing or not. I could easily shoot someone just to get the experience of it, but I know it's wrong and would most likely go to prison for it, hence why I don't do it. I think that's the biggest problem with the youth of today. They don't take the time to think about whats right and wrong, or they just don't care! That explains why we have so many youthful offenders in our prison population now compared to just 20 years ago, and yes being a correctional officer I see them coming in every week. There is no experience in life worth putting yourself or someone else in harms way. Do I think you should experiment with life, of course I do, but at the same time be responsible, you know what you should and shouldn't do.

Answer 5

It's hard to know what 'bad' things you are talking about because you are not really specific.

But in general terms you will do many stupid things in the next ten years. You will make mistakes and in the future you will look back and wonder what you were thinking. It's all part of growing up and I wouldn't worry too much about it.

But always ask yourself what are the long term risks of the behavior you are considering. For example, committing a crime could wreck your future as could getting pregnant or becoming a drug addict. So try and evaluate the danger of an activity in the short and long term before you decide to do it. Make sure YOU want to do it and you are not just doing it because of pressure from others.

Answer 6

If you know that something is harmful to you, then stay away from it regardless of what others say or think. Never feel guilty about doing the right thing. Never do something just for the experience---that could get you killed. Jesus loves you and he wants you around for a long time. He wants to bless you and give you all of the wonderful blessing that he has to offer you. Trust in him and not the whims that pass through your mind---those momentary flashes that seem to be great ideas come from the devil---he hates you. You are young and have so much to give to the kingdom of heaven---why die before your time or render yourself useless to God? Keep your faith in Jesus. With the love of Christ, Preacher.

Answer 7

But what would this be? I mean....I've never robbed a bank before. That's bad. Not really an experience I'd care to undertake either. Skydiving or bungee-jumping isn't bad either....another couple of things I'd care not to induldge in either.
However, does this "something bad" have to put you at physical risk. Like dying? Or maybe being crippled?
It isn't worth getting the cops irate or destroying public or private property. That isn't fun at all and I wouldn't condone that type of illegal conduct.
So I guess the answer to your question would be....um...yeah....sure. As long as you're willing to except the consequences, be what they may.

Good luck and for God's sake don't do something stupid.

Answer 8

well, you make some dumb decisions when you are young. If it feels like you can benefit more from making a bad decision then you are lost in your own thought process. If you know it might not be a good idea and nothing good can come from it then don't do it. It my hurt in the short run to pass it up, but going for it and trying to worry about it later can have a life long impact and dire consequences.

Answer 9

This is a classic response from the young. I want it and I'll do anything I have to to get it (an exaggeration, but that's the basic process). It takes maturity and a bit of wisdom to know what is a "need" and what is a "want," and if a mere "want" is worth compromising yourself. Also, how "bad" is the new experience? If it is illegal, no good. If it is immoral, no good. If it is just silly, go for it!

Answer 10

If it is bad, then you souldn't do it. If your intelligence tells you it's not good for you, whatever other people say, why should you do it?? peer presure?? most of the times, ppl who know it's wrong, will want you to do it, so it isn't as "bad" if they're not the only ones who did it. Be strong, and go through life with your principles, don't let others decide what to do.

Answer 11

Take a calculated risk not a foolish one. If it is something that Will definitely hurt you long term then it's not worth it. You don't want to be that person that will look back on their life and it's full of mistakes that have turned a beautiful little girl into a ugly person.