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There is this person that recently moved into our neighborhood. He is very quiet dosen't talk to anybody, dosen't make much facial expressions either. He tries to avoid people. When walking he avoids looking at people too. He is however, extremely handy and has done very interesting repairs requiring skill by himself. He appears to be in his 20s, has a 4-year degree in a technical field and holds a professional job, has a wife, and 18 mo daughter. I was just curious what you guys think
2006-06-19 08:33:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What type of family upbringing would do this. What type of things would cause problems. etc....
2006-06-19 08:41:10 · update #1
Sounds like a quiet, shy, reserved, techie-type.
He might suffer from some type of anxiety. If he seems willing to relate or connect when there's tasks he can do to help someone, or you get on a "how to" or "tech" topic -- but just has trouble being "personal" in his interaction -- he's probably pretty normal.
I would guess him to be an ISTJ type on the Myers-Briggs, based on what you said. (Could be wrong, but such behavior is very typical for them.)
My father-in-law is the same type; get him talking about boiler engineering and he'll amaze you with his knowledge, and he's excellent (and perfectionist) with handy fix-it jobs around the premises. He's sweet and kind, but he's a little stiff and has trouble opening up when the topic becomes how one feels or abstract concepts.
Those are simply areas in which he does not want to inadvertent offend someone, doesn't know "the rules," or doesn't want to make a blunder or say something wrong.
Anyway, my advice would be simply to treat him normally when he's around. Acknowledge him in conversation, ask him a question when you want, but don't put pressure on him to speak, and accept the limited answers he gives. Just let him hang around and listen. The more comfortable he gets, the more he'll be willing to open up.
He'll feel more comfortable doing things for people than talking about his emotions or asking personal questions.
If you can invite his wife over with him in tow, or if you can strike up conversations with her while he's around, then even better.
2006-06-19 10:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he appears to be a man that would prefer to be to himself and does not make friends or acquaintances easily. Some people are just like that. Especially after a move into a new neighborhood, possibly from out of state and having to change jobs. Even being professional this can be stressful and overwhelming. Seems that he has put all this into repairs in his new home which is a good thing and none of it has been wasted.
Maybe you should make the first move to get to know him and his family and that would break the ice. Invite your new neighbor over for a cook out or something and get to know him/them better on a personal basis. Good luck.
2006-06-19 08:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by sarteaga1970 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Beanie. Introverts can sometimes appear as "weird" or "shy". Especially to extroverts. The 4 year degree in the tech. field, doing things with his hands are all attributes of introverts. But, they are not "bad" people. Just get their energy from different sources (basically from within their selves) than from others like extroverts do. He's probably just as "normal" as anyone else. Of course, these days that's not saying too much is it! :)
2006-06-19 08:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lizbeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be surprised if he's either really shy, or maybe even autistic. My cosuin is a little autistic, so this sounds very familiar. People seem to shy away from the world, or live in there own one. I could be totally off, but that's my best guess.
2006-06-19 12:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just shy. I mean he is in a new environment, with new people, and new situations. Maybe you could talk to him, or his wife. What if their really nice? Maybe you guys could talk about his work, or his wife's work. Do you have a kid(s) around that age. If so, maybe you could schedule a play date together. Hope this helps!
2006-06-19 08:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Kate ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he's just introverted. Shy, likes to keep to himself, is comfortable with the familiar.
2006-06-19 08:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Jen ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably a nice person, sounds like he might have had a hard life, may be depressed.
2006-06-19 09:02:21 · answer #7 · answered by moonbaby279 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALOT OF MORE INTELLIGENT PEOPLE ARE RESERVED.MY GUESS IS HE MAY SEE HIMSELF AS SUPERIOR OR ABOVE COMMMON CONVERSATION OR HE IS BORED BY USELESS CHATTER AND ANNOYED ALSO. OR HE COULD BE DEEP IN THOUGHT ALOT. WE MAY SEEM DIFFERENT TO HIM.
2006-06-19 09:04:57 · answer #8 · answered by ***BUTTERFLY*** 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be a reserve person.
2006-06-19 08:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by emmie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋