2006-06-19 07:04:17 · 34 answers · asked by edsoames 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that this would be a mistake. I know that my husband occasionaly says things about a 3-way, but in the end he would have a problem with it. He would hate knowing that another man has touched me that way. I don't think he would be able to look at me the same way.
2006-06-19 07:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but I have never known an "open marriage" that did not end up in DIVORCE. From what I have seen and being in the "Over The Hill" crowd (44+), you would never feel the same if your wife came home, or even if you suspected her of coming home with "full of a mans seed" other than yours.
It would always haunt your mind, despite the number of gals you have laid in the meantime maybe not even worrying about if you were leaving you seed elsewhere (which could also happen, even with name-brand rubbers and her assurance that she is on the Pill).
My advice, if you love her, get freaky with her. If not, move on and let her go for good!
2006-06-19 07:19:28 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you are even asking this question means you have doubts..I'm not here to judge you or your wife but you must also realise that your marriage must have problems if you are considering it..there will always be the...how..where..when and with how many question in your mind..if its just sex with different people you both seek then why not con cider joining a swingers club,,you go together..you know she is safe and you leave together..its all above board..no secrets..but if its a relationship with another person you both want then that's much more complicated and in time will come between you as you cant be sure neither of you get feelings for someone else because that is what will hurt the most and possibly end your marriage..think hard before you do anything..your marriage depends on it xx
2006-06-19 13:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by tysbev 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wana play around get a divorce first, with HIV and all the STD's out there at the moment you must be totally mad. Have you got a death wish or something.
What would you do if she got pregnant off another man? Think the answer to your question is you would not like it and you would not feel the same way about each other ever again. Stop considering it before it ends your marriage.
2006-06-19 09:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by bevsthe1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i seriously doubt it. this whole open marriage thing is just a sign that it isn't working out in some way. you are much better off putting the effort into your relationship than by adding other people to the mix. it won't work, eventually one of you will be hurt, whether you agreed to it or not it is still a betrayal deep down and once you do it you can't ever take it back, the time you have been only with each other is gone forever. not to mention that someone will eventually develop feelings for someone else and it will just be a big mess. if you want to be with other people just get divorced instead of messing with each others heads first. also in this day and age of diseases....need i say more.
2006-06-19 07:11:18 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it these things don`t work. Either you or your wife will fall for someone else and the fact you are doubting it now confirms this. I would hope condoms would be worn to avoid unwanted pregnancy`s or STD`s. She could get pregnant with another man`s child how would you feel then.Work out how to excite your marriage now not make it an open relationship.
2006-06-20 02:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly55freedom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did your marriage vows say? If you are thinking of violating them then maybe you should just call it what it is: divorce. If you want to stay married then why not try something new together? Doesn't even have to be sexual. Travel somewhere new. Maybe one of you go on a month-long vacation by yourself and when you come back the sex ought to be pretty intense. No need to go outside the marriage unless you're just greedy. Reminds me of my sister's definition of bi-bisexuals: Selfish people. A little silly, maybe, but the point is:Choose 'cuz you can't have it all, despite what your favorite sitcom would have you believe. That's just about ratings.
2006-06-19 07:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strange as the question will seem to many people, I have met several couples that enjoyed an "open" marriage. Honesty was important, and the couples were usually friends as well as lovers.
Trust was a big factor. North Americans' tend to have a very narrow attitude in this regard.
2006-06-19 17:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Richard B-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as I think an open relationship is a good idea, it requires a ton of trust and open communication. Few can handle it.
as much as I love the idea also about getting another mans seed in me... Even I have to maintain boundries... you got to be safe... if you and your wife enjoy having unprotected sex, keep it between the two of you... the idea of her takin another guys seed is not nearly as horrifying as her coming home pregnant or with an std..... just set it up where you two are protected when with another person...
2006-06-19 07:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by mallard guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question but the answer lies in who gets their leg over most then the other will be jealous and thats where the problem lies. I really dont think it will work but I do know couples that have tried it and I have been involved and they dont have a problem with it. You wouldn't be asking the question if you were sure about it which is why I think it would not be a good idea
2006-06-19 07:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by Gar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋