2006-06-19 06:51:09 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriages often end after 3 years. It is naturally a difficult time. Talk out your issues with him. Get him to talk out the issues with you. If you two can't resolve the issues alone, go to counseling.
You may find there is an external issue making your husband seem like he doesn't love you, but he's just depressed and can't feel love for anything. You can't figure that out for him or fix it. That is what counseling is for.
You give it your best try, but don't let it sit. Resolving this issue is the best thing you can do for your children. The longer it stays the way it is, the worse it will affect your kids.
2006-06-21 20:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Ken C. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming that this isn't just a situational problem (you are both stressed over money, a new job, a sick child, an affair, etc.) then I would begin to reasses the relationship and my reasons for staying or going. Having two children grow up without their biological father in the home is not the best situation, but neither is it the worst. Also, you are not just a mom or a wife, you are a person with your own needs and desires. If you cannot meet your own needs (being happy/content in life with someone who loves you back and wants to be with you), then how can you really be there to help your family? So take care of you!
What actions of your could you change to make the situation different? How long are you willing to work on it before another reassesment? Could you or did you approach your spouse about your feelings? Listen not to his words, but follow his actions. Men tend to be action oriented. Maybe it would be best to just be direct, no crying , no drama or accusations. Do you need more one on one time? More sex? More compliments? Eye contact? Ask for it!
The only time I would say, just cut him loose now is if he is physically and/or mentally abusing you or the children. People like that aren't going to really change. Leave and don't look back. If you cannot muster up the courage for yourself, think of your kids sitting in theraphy in several years and trying to explain why you stayed.
Even if you don't decide to change anything, you still have made your choice.
2006-06-19 16:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by StudentoftheHumanCondition 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start planning on how you could live without him. If the kids are still babies then it wouldn't hurt to just deal with him until things get a little easier with the kids.
2006-06-19 14:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not stay for just the kids. Why would you be w some one who does not love you. You deserve love just as well as he does. Find some who will love you back.
2006-06-19 14:04:09 · answer #4 · answered by Youngstill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get help and counseling for your marriage and since you love him be the wife you need to be for him and for this marriage. Why does he not love you anymore? There has to be alot behind this question.
2006-06-19 13:59:06 · answer #5 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋