2006-06-19 06:03:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been married for three years, and hardly fight with my wife. We went to pre engagement counseling and it's was one of the worst & best experiences. Our first counselor said her goal was to broke us up!!! As soon as a heard that I found another counselor!! This new counselor wanted to helps make good decisions and guides to make our own decisions, not broke us up. Be care about who you see for counseling, go to a MFT not someone with a PHD. MFT = Marriage & Family Threspst. PHD in Phycology = Your their new ginee pig expermint!!! Ask your counslor want their goal is for you two, is it to broke you up or help you make a good desicion. You have been warned & do not see a pastor!! See a MFT professnoal. In most states it takes people a masters + 4 years of training to become a MFT. So they are highly quiflied.
2006-06-19 06:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by antihero1776 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish we had done it. There are so many MAJOR issues in a marriage and if you go through the counseling you may find out what you two agree/disagree on. Money issues, children, etc. (even in-law problems and how you would deal with that). It's a good idea because a lot of people feel they are in love and maybe true but once you are married, a LOT of other stuff comes up that you were probably not thinking about. Even your goals in life, how you would discipline your children if you do have any (parents fight this issue ALL the time and it can get serious).
There's so much more. Do it - I would!!
2006-06-19 13:08:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that pre-marriage counseling is very important. It helps to make sure that the 2 people are on the same page. Things will come out that you can fix now instead of causing problems later. My husband and I did not have counseling, but I sometimes wish that we had. It would have made that first year a lot easier.
2006-06-19 13:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need counseling before marriage .You should wait on getting married I wouldn't want to marry someone when we are having so many problems that we need counseling just dating.
2006-06-19 13:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by Addie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pre marriage counselling is an awesome thing....it won't stop you from fighting but everyone fights....it will just help you see each other better from the beginning and that way you won't have a ton of new surprises when you are finally married
2006-06-19 13:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by Veronikak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It helps you prepare for marriage and for the comittment of it but i dont know about a happy one because you choose to be happy in your marriage or not but i do tend to believe that it can be one of the keys towards happiness in a marriage.
2006-06-19 15:38:23 · answer #6 · answered by Fast Steve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋