my husband wont let me out of the house and i am 5 months pregnant. what can i do to get him to change?

Question

i try to tell him that i need to walk around and do things so i can get rid of my back pains that i am having and i think its from not being allowed out of the house. can you please give me some advice

Answer 1

the fact that your husband is that controlling is kind of scary i must say....what happens if you leave the house anyway? i mean are you scared of him? ......that is disturbing....you should go and do what is healthy for you and your baby....**** your husband if he is endanging the health of you and your baby

Answer 2

I'm sorry i don't know how help full this will be but here goes it depends i mean is your husband doing this because hes insecure about your relationship or because hes scared you'll get hurt assuming the latter mabe try and remind him that your already in pain and are trying to feel better obviously him keeping you in the house all day isn't working so why not try it your way if it is because of his insecurity's try inviting him along to the park or something ya know get him involved with it if that don't work hold out on him and tell him you might be in the mood more often if you were not in pain all the time any argument he may send at you, should be covered by telling him he did half the work five months ago why cant he do half now

Answer 3

You can not get him to change. First problem we have is that we think that we can change someone or the way that they think and we can't. We can make suggestions we can offer another type of logic but we cannot change the way they are or think. Wow, being five months pregnant and being not being able to do anything. You are not a child and this is ABUSIVE, to both you and your unborn child. It is also a sign of things to come. Please believe that! The more active you are the easier your labor will be and the healthier your child will be also, the happier you are the less stressed your child is. You have to keep in mind that you have someone who will relies solely on you, when you do things and make decisions you have to keep your child in mind. This is something very serious and dangerous. This is a sign of possessive behavior which may seem like love right now but it can turn very violent and dangerous. I know that you have seen the signs already. DO NOT IGNORE THEM! I also have a gut feeling that this behavior is nothing new, that he has been possessive since before you got pregnant.

Answer 4

you didn't state your age or his, but i have the feeling you are young, take it from an old girl, get out now, put your foot down, don't let him imtimidate you, scare you, control you,, i have been in this type of marriage for 20 years, do have to admit it is easy to tell you this but alas i cannot heed my own advice, after so many years a type of brainwashing happens, your husband will soon control your child as well,, you will wake up one morning old, gray. lonely, and wonder where did all those years go to

Answer 5

Sounds very controlling but that isn't your question. Why not suggest that the two of you go for a walk together? That way he can keep an eye on you if that is what he is concerned about.

Answer 6

sounds very controlling abusive guy. you should talk to your doctor or nurse and they talk to your husband because you need to walk , but with my personal experience you will have lots of problem later. sorry but it is true and he will get worse. until you get tired and say enough is enough and leave him forever, but you should be ready to do the decision.
You may be in an abusive relationship if he or she:
Is jealous or possessive toward you.
(Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of Sexual Addictions and Love Addiction.)
Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.
Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships.
Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly.
Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with.
Abuses drugs or alcohol.
Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.)
Blames you when he or she mistreats you.
Has a history of bad relationships.
Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.
You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do.
Makes "jokes" that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, weather privately or around family and friends.
Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child.
Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control.
Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain.
You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones.
You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it's the right thing to do.

Does the person you love...
• constantly keep track of your time?

• act jealous and possessive?

• accuse you of being unfaithful or flirting?

• discourage your relationships with friends and family?

• prevent or discourage you from working, interacting with friends or attending school?

• constantly criticize or belittle you?

• control all finances and force you to account for what you spend? (Reasonable cooperative budgeting excepted.)

• humiliate you in front of others? (Including "jokes" at your expense.)

• destroy or take your personal property or sentimental items?

• have affairs?

• threaten to hurt you, your children or pets? Threaten to use a weapon?

• push, hit, slap, punch, kick, or bite you or your children?

• force you to have sex against your will, or demand sexual acts you are uncomfortable with?

Answer 7

he won't let you out of the house, what are you his pet dog?? Get up and open the door and go for a walk, if you are scared because he will hurt you then you should pack your stuff then go to the door open it and run and never look back for the sake of yourself and you unborn child

Answer 8

why won't he let you out of the house? If he's concerned that it's a danger to you or the baby to be out, suggest he go with you to your next dr's appt and have him talk to the Dr about what is good and bad for you and the baby.

Answer 9

Do what you need to do. He has no right to tell you if you should or should not go for a walk. He sounds like a controlling idiot.

Answer 10

no offense but he sounds really controlling. is he abusive to you physically or emotionally? what is his reasoning for not letting you leave the house??? don't let him treat you this way. sorry but from the little info you provided, he already sounds like a jerk.

Answer 11

He has no right to keep you in the house. Who does he think he is?