I accussed my ex of cheating on the job with one of the secretaries. My husband left me 6/6 asked for a divorce and moved into his own apartment at the complex he and she work and live. We had been fighting but I had no idea he was going to up and move. He didn't call all week. By Sunday he called to aplogize and say he loved me etc.I told him to come over and get the rest of his things because by that time I had accepted that it was over. He came over and started kissing me and we had sex. This week he began calling me every lunch break and every evening asking me to come over, saying bring our daughter over ( 3m/o) I came over once and brought our daughter. He satrted calling me asking for sex again everynight. On Friday night I showed up at his door 1am. We had sex for 3 hours things he had never done before, and we continued all weekend. He is telling me I love you soo much. I love your (p***y) I am thinking was he cheating B4.Why does he love it so much now? Should I stop sex?
2006-06-19 05:46:45 · 19 answers · asked by Negrita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He says he wants to renew our vows. He wants to move back in.He says he never cheated and that was just tired of me accusing him and all of our fighting and thats why he moved. He tells me to pop up anytime at his house day or night. But then he told me that the secretaries breast ugly and they are sit on her stomach. Does that mean he has seen them? (You might have to read my previous post to get the full picture)
2006-06-19 05:50:39 · update #1
Sounds like after a week on his own he found out that he missed you and wasn't so enthralled with having her around all the time. Odds are he did cheat or he wouldn't have moved out and into her same complex. People who cheat though often have a good relationship with the person they are cheating with while it is cheating but that relationship can fall apart when they actually have to be with each other in a relationship. My biggest concern over you taking him back is that he seems more obsessed over having sex with you than really building a relationship and solving the problems. If he was really wanting to be in a relationship his focus would be on his cheating or not cheating issue and how things can be repaired. Instead he wants sex and is using sex to avoid the issue. Don't take him back until you deal with the issue and are sure you can trust him.
2006-06-19 05:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yep! He cheated.
He cheated, but now he regrets it. Happens all the time.
Congratulations on having great sex, BUT!...having great sex is NOT the basis that maintains a good relationship. Actualy, neither one of you sound like you're mature enough to sustain a long-lasting relationship.
Getting back together may seem ok for a while, but then all the problems that existed in your relationship before he cheated, will return eventually. There will be more fights.
In that whole thing that you wrote, you never mentioned once (NOT ONCE!) that you love him.....that says a lot. It acutaly sounds like you're bragging about all the sex you're having. So, it seems that deep down inside, you already know that being in a relationship with him won't work. Don't even consider marrying him.
You have your daughter in comon, and sex. Best advise is to agree to live separate lives, but remain friends. You'll both be happier that way.
2006-06-19 13:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by Pulse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to ask urself y he left in the first place. Just because he can't make up his mind, doesn't mean he hasn't cheated. Not trying to bring u down, but if my husband moved out, I would think something serious was behind his decision. Don't give into him, no matter how much u want. Find out the facts first.
2006-06-19 12:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Julie G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have more issues here than meet the eye. He moved out June 6, called a week later, but you told him it was too late...that is serious committment, isn't it? You two need a lot of growing up to do before you get back into this mess...you both sound like high schoolers to me.
2006-06-19 12:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to love all the Man-hater answers on this thread. First off take him up on his offer - stop by his place in the middle of the night & when you don;t find anyone have sex at his place.
At some point you either need to trust him or cut him off. If he wants to renew vows then obviously he loves you.
2006-06-19 12:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by badwolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't using you for sex...he's using sex to distract you from reality. He knows that women confuse sex and desire with love and affection.
A mature, honest man, who loves you, would not just come over and seduce you; and then leave. He would attempt to resolve the relationship issue and only when/if you guys came to an agreement would he have sex with you.
I think he's a whore.
2006-06-19 13:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds kinda strange to me, but hey, maybe you should look at it this way, you have one child already, and things are on shaky grounds, women who have just had a child for some reason tend to be more fertile, and plus you think he has been cheating which is a possibility, so if you really think about it maybe you shouldn't be having sex with him, you know, just to look out for your own best interests, sex is always good but STD's and babies dadies that aren't going to be around just kinda suck now don't they?anyways, best of luck to you
2006-06-19 12:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have solid evidence he is cheating then he is trying to cover up by being extra loving with you. It means he doesn't want you to leave but he might also want to carry on with the affair. You be the judge.
2006-06-19 12:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want him, why are u still having sex with him?, you cant have it both ways....and why are you being his bit on the side if he has this other woman? stop the sex and discuss the problem then decide where to go from there.
2006-06-19 12:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by felicitym2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i think you need to sit long and hard by the sounds of it hes only using you for the sex why couldnt he do that when you was together get someone else girl you deserve it
2006-06-19 13:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋