I met and became best friends with L for 2 years . We were very close shared everything and the entire time he was having an affair with a married woman that was her second affair - she is now divorced and still seeing him -- I couldn't handle that he was so inconsiderate of her husband and my feelings on infidelity mean while he would talk of other cheating people and how wrong it was while he was doing the exact same thing... I broke off friendship - he cried saying how much i meant to him and how much he cared about me(which i know he did) I just knew the woman ,how she was and that she would come between our friendship ... Did he do me wrong ? it still hurts six months later beyond belief..
2006-06-19 05:18:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
He didn't betray you. He kept an act secret that should have been secret because it is very shameful. He wasn't cheating on you, he was cheating against that married guy.
Are you wrong to not want him in your life? No. That is good that you get rid of people in your life who are negative influences.
2006-06-19 05:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This response is based on the relationship with L being a platonic friendship. I can't tell from what you've written if it was something more.
I am not sure if you are saying that he used his friendship with you as a cover of his whereabouts or that he pretended to be offended by cheaters while engaging in the affair. If I were in that situation, I would consider the first one a betrayal. In the second situation, he is just a liar and hypocrite. Also, I don't believe that other people can come between two people. Your friend's behavior came between you two. The woman is not responsible for his bad behavior. She was the conduit, but not the cause.
It takes time to come to terms with a dissolved friendship for whatever reason. It is very similar to the "grief cycles" when someone passes. Give yourself time to grieve.
2006-06-19 05:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I even have on no account cheated, yet I even have been cheated on. Its a poor feeling that no-one could might desire to circulate although. The lies and each thing that is going with it is thoroughly un called for. If a guy or woman stands on the alter and says "I do", what area of "I do" do no longer they comprehend? needless to say people who cheat are not satisfied and might desire to get out of the relationship they are in first, earlier they harm somebody particularly than stab thier companion in the back. all and sundry that justifies cheating won't be able to be relied on themselves and haven't any morals to communicate of. A cheater is a coward, a cheater is somebody that desires thier cake and consume it too, a cheater is thoroughly egocentric and is used to getting what they choose, whilst they choose it. They completely dismiss the feelings of thier companion, thier kinfolk and thier destiny and there's no excuse for it what so ever!!
2016-12-08 22:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cathy B when you say the two of you shared everything do you mean sex too. Because the puts a new light on the subject. I don't think he had to tell you something so personally unless you and him was more than aquaintances.
2006-06-19 05:27:06 · answer #4 · answered by sally Lu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a little contradiction in terms there. How did he have the time to do his affair with the other woman, when he was spending all of his time with you?
However, you were right to dump him. He couldn't be trusted. Just another one of those jerks who wants to add another notch to his gunbelt.
2006-06-19 05:23:42 · answer #5 · answered by rb_cubed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did wrong,you did right.however,there is such a thing as forgiveness between friends,unless there is more than friendship between the two of you!
2006-06-19 05:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You believe his tears? so sorry for you. Guess what? you can STILL move on! maybe that is why he did you wrong, because you are very ignorant of what is going on in the relationship...you do not have a clue...and you STILL don't !(this harshness is necessary for you) .Go on with your life...
2006-06-19 05:29:16 · answer #7 · answered by Pooks 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were his BEST friend? Glad I don't have a best friend like you. Best friends know your dirty little secrets but love you and stand by you anyway. My opinion - you treated him worse than he treated you.
2006-06-19 05:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Tish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts? Did he do you wrong? Of course he did. He is a jerk. No regrets dumping him.
2006-06-19 05:22:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but does this really affect you and him. Forget about it.
2006-06-19 05:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Jet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋