We don't live together and he has already lost one job a few months ago. He doesn't feel he needs to go to AA and I don't know how to help. I'm so lost, I don't know what to do to help him.
2006-06-19 05:04:33 · 12 answers · asked by S W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You REALLY NEED to leave him...it is ABSOLUTLY the best thing to do. In the long run you will be much better off!!! You don't need to help him...he (at some point) needs to help himself and he may need to come to a very low point in his life for that to happen but that is usually what motivates people to change and get help. Best to you!!!
2006-06-19 05:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by DreamingofU 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he feels he doesn't need to go to AA there is nothing you can do. Hopefully the courts will force him to go.....if not now then when he gets his 2nd DUI. But at the end of the day if he doesn't think he has a problem and he doesn't want to fix it you need to leave. This is with him for life.
2006-06-19 12:13:17 · answer #2 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, you can't help him unless he wants to help himself. If this dui gave him a wake up call and he now realizes that he has a problem and wants to stop drinking...then you can support him through it. He has to make the steps to get better, and if he chooses to do that...stand by him and be there. If he chooses to change nothing... then my best advice is to move on...because when alcohol is a priority in a persons life...nothing or no one is as important as the 'drink'...and never will be.
2006-06-19 12:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by rruehlen45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's on the path of destruction slowly but surely he is making things worst. The only thing you can do is give him an ultimatum and let him know that he either has to change or you can no longer stay in that relationship and watch him loose himself. The last thing you want to do is make him drag you with him. As much as it may hurt, and as much as you may love him the best thing is try to help. If he doesn't listen then maybe he has to hit rock bottom and see for himself that he needs to change. Good luck!
2006-06-19 12:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't beat him, join him (LOL joke), no no, don't do that!! how do you feel about him? if you really think that there might be a bright future, then make him understand that it won't work if he keeps screwing up. Personally, I'd ask him to stop. But i'm a guy, so i guess I would have to ask her to stop, or whatever. Any way, good luck with that, stand your ground, let him know if what he is doing is hurting you as a couple, etc...and learn how to bake cookies!!!! (joke)
2006-06-19 12:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's got his first DUI, you should help him get back in his place and then break up with him, you shouldn't be dating a drinker & driver, or a drinker. Alchoholic drinks shouldn't be made anymore, it's just killing people daily.
So- help him, put him in rehab if it's really that bad
And then discuss with him if he doesn't stop drinking and stuff that you might break up with him.
Please take my advice, it could save your life!
2006-06-19 12:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is so obvious he has a problem that if he can't see it, then he is also too stupid to be with you. He'll see the light probably after he kills someone innocent cause he was driving drunk again.
2006-06-19 12:20:53 · answer #7 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start off, don't drive with him behind the wheel! he's in a destructive cycle that will only get worse until he either stops on his own or gets professional help...good luck!
2006-06-19 12:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any brains you will dump this loser NOW! You don't know what to do to help him because he will not admit that he has a problem. You know he has a problem and I know he has a problem. If you stay with this loser you are a fool.
2006-06-19 12:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by misterbig356 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice is to ask a local attorney who does DUI defense. Most will NOT charge for a first visit.
http://www.san-francisco-oakland-bay-area-lawyers-attorneys-directory.com
http://www.san-jose-ca-lawyers-attorneys-directory.com
http://www.sacramento-ca-lawyers-attorneys-directory.com
http://www.la-orange-county-lawyers-attorney-directory.com
http://www.legal-advice-library.info/blog
http://www.las-vegas-nevada-lawyer-attorney-legal-injury-defense-directory.com
http://www.austin-texas-lawyers-attorneys-directory.com/austin-legal-services.htm
http://www.san-antonio-texas-lawyers-attorneys-directory.com
http://www.san-diego-lawyer-attorney-personal-injury-dui-car-immigration.info
2006-06-20 09:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋