Six years since we know each other, two years of serious relationships. But he always insists that this isnt serious for him, even though all his signals show other wise. Except for a fling or two in the past he hasnt seen anyone on a serious level. We have been intimate but no intercourse yet, he always backs out at the last moment leaving me unsatisfies or unfulfilled. Sometimes i feel he is only keeping some gaps in his life filled by being with me. As for me,I have been more than 100% committed. What should I do? Is he serious about me or not? Or is there some past he feels he cant let go off.
2006-06-19 05:03:45 · 28 answers · asked by Kavita A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
definately he serious about you but he has some issues with his past. obviously you mean something to him cause he wont be hanging around with you for all that time without any intercourse. I believe he might have problems or lacks confidence when it comes to sexual performance. Try and show him or explain to him (not directly) that you are not bothered that much about how he will perfom in bed. He might then gain the confidence to show how much he is committed to you.
good luck
2006-06-19 06:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by oceantwins 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He obviously doesnt respect you. And if you allow him, he'll keep on doing it. Put your foot down girl! And keep it there. If your being used LEAVE HIM! Hey your not married, you arent obligated to stay in that relationship. Or just turn the tables around, after all he says its not serious... right? See how serious it is to him when you date other people. Be busy sometimes, dont answer his phone calls all the time. Go out with your friends, fill your life with things you enjoy, call him when your bored. Then youll see how he feels. If doesnt care and doesnt say anything to you about it, and shows you no feelings, he's not serious about you and you can either string him along er let him go, and continue with the friendships, and relationships that you've started. Dont be miserable for nothing.
2006-06-19 05:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, he likes you. I think he really likes you, but he is not sure he wants to commit to you. NOW, here is the problem you are hooked, you are in love with him and I know you won't give up without a fight for this man and that's good. With that said, your going to have to be brave and do the unthinkable; Stop being intimate with him for at least 2 weeks and see what happens. To do this you better get out of town tell your girlfriends you need their support to get you away from him for at least 2 weeks. The reason I say this he knows how you feel about him and he knows he can toy with you. Stop it.
I guarantee within the first 1 to 2 weeks he'll be asking if you're coming over, or what you're doing and so forth and so on. Let him think you've lost interest in him, tell him you can't see him you're going out with you're friends, family or whoever (even though this is not true) and just stay home. When he calls tell him you're sorry you can't talk you're just out the door if he ask where you're going just laugh and say you really have to go and you'll call later, and always wait a day or two before calling him back, because you're busy. Also when he calls let you're answering machine pick up. Believe me he'll keep calling till you pick up, and when you feel like seeing him then you see him, and when the time is right like right before being intimate tell him your feelings for him and tell him what you want, and then ask him what he want's and see where you land from their. He wants to know you're worth it. Are you worth it? He's either in or he's out.
2006-06-19 05:30:20 · answer #3 · answered by You got Moxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way of being secure in the relationship right now. If he is not serious then slow things way down and just be friends for now. He does not seem serious or committed at all. I dont want to see you get hurt or devastated so think before pursuing him any further. Do not have intercourse with him as this will only complicate things and make it worse!
2006-06-19 05:08:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you have known each other for 6 yrs and been in a relationship for 2 years..its time to move on..
You 2 are not intimate and he is with other women, you basically only have a good friendship, nothing else..
Find yourself a partner, someone other than your friend..if you keep holding on to something that isn't there and will never be, your only going to hurt yourself in the long run..
In fact, go out tonight..there are many a good man out there just waiting for a committed relationship...
2006-06-19 05:09:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's choosing between you and someone else (or want you both), make that decision for him and get rid of him. Life is too short to waste time on someone who you don't know if they love you back or will bail on you once you get settled into a long-term relationship. A committed relationship should be two-way commitment. If it is less than that, you aren't being fair to yourself or your parnter. You'll be happier and stronger for letting him go.
2006-06-19 05:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by LEMME ANSWER THAT! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and him are not on the same level when it comes to having a serious relationship. 6 years later he's still confusing you. It's time to let it go and find someone who wants the same things you do.
2006-06-19 05:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After six years i would say it's deffinately time to let go. If he hasn't committed to you by now he probably won't. Tell him you want a serious relationship and that it's time that you moved on. If he wants you he will do something about it. If he doesn't...well then you will have gone on to better things.
2006-06-19 05:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by Crazymomo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
noooooooooooo he is a jackass and you are a welcome mat.......honey he dont want you... dont let him put you down like this the hell with him he sounds retarted anyways your wasting your time i guaranteed it. is someone else outthere just right for you but you dont meet him because your too busy letting this dumbass do the cha-cha on your heart,he is stumping all over your fellings and when he finds the right person for him he is going to give you a one way ticket to hell,.why not do it to him before he do it to you..... tell him go to hell and stay there dumb *** i dont want you i dont need you... and be strong even if you go home and cry later dont cry in front of him because it will only make him feel important........you can do it girl value your self you can find somebody better. hell alone you can do better.get rid of him and start fresh if you get rid of him you are going to feel better you are felling bad because deep inside you know that he is playing you so bad.and the sex thing what is that even men that dont love the women have the common sense to have at least sex with them maybe he is a homosexual ask him tell him that maybe you can't have sex with a woman because you are all in the closet........ wht the hell is that?? backing up on the sex after he get you all started.....there is something fishy about this dude because men can have sex with more than one girl in a day....if he is not doing it with you after he gets you started maybe he do it to the other girls too,meaning he has a problem??? you need to find out maybe that will turn you off and you can let go easy of him.. my advice to you is find something about him that you really hate and focus on it that way you can let go and take the trash out where it belongs,,,,,,,good luck honey.
2006-06-19 05:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you have the same level of commitment to each other so I don't see much hope for sucess in this relationship. They only work when both people are equally commited to each other. Good luck.
2006-06-19 05:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by lavenderroseford 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋