I gave my soon to be ex the benefit of the doubt - he lied to the court about how much money he makes - but we made an agreement the next day for him to pay the childsupport and the daycare! He hasnt - so since we built the business together - I decided to take him to court to put the childsupport where it should be and considering his history of making (or not making) payments I am also going to take as much in value from his as possible. He doesnt visit our child or spend quality time with our little one more than maybe 20 minutes a month! In 6 months he paid less than one month worth of child support and is conctantly late with the daycare!
Had he actually done what he said he would to - I would have left him alone!
2006-06-19 04:52:14 · 17 answers · asked by Bugs_Mom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do the right thing and take him to court..... and get your benefits so by order of the court..if you guys got a divorce it meant you could not agree or comunicate on anything what makes you think you would agree or comunicate on something like this.. he is not giving you something that by law is yours and your kid is entitled too this is about that kid now... and if he always late the faster you should go to court. dont let him get away with it or you going to end up with the short end of the stick,,,,you go there and demand child support and everything you are entitled too get a lawyer right away no more agreements with him. all he wants is to be scott free and not to pay so he can start fresh and you with the child fair???????? not...... you better get to court now.if he dont spend time with the kid is ok because you are going to make sure he spend that money on him,,,open a bank account for your baby's college education that the father is responsble for, get with it girl,think about your child is all about this child now the marriage is over you start new and he can start new after he gives you yours understand? make sure he is going to be responsable for the only thing you have in common with him that baby,, you have to be strong for that child fight for his right be a protective mother if not you who??? ur ex i dont think so. get with it girl wake up and smell the coffee. good luck.
2006-06-19 05:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way i see it he had his chance he blew it and you have to think of your children first.I had the same thing happen to me i gave my ex a break he just had another baby his then wife had a bad car wreck almost died so i was like okay u help me with certain things and just pay what ya can till your wife gets better needless to say he paid not a dime humm lets see in 2 years and never comes over he sees his kids once a year and no I'm not making that up I'm being really serious.Every time i take him back to court he cries promises he will pay the money he owes give me his car ,truck ,anything with value to pay his back child support to keep from going to jail and i give in and i never see nothing so now its been 7 years of his bull and I'm done no more Mrs nice guy.I'm sick of my kids suffering his lies his broken promises yet I'm good enough to let hI'm slide so many times because of his other kid he had after his first two,i tell ya i must of been off my rocker,cant even take care of his first two and had more,so now im not playing no more games either he pays up or he can go to jail ,so stand up to him get your money don't listen to a word he says only thing he needs to tell you is when the checks in the mail
2006-06-19 05:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by wildblonde_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely take him to court. He should have paid the child support if he has the money. I believe though that daycare expenses are included in the child support amount. If you are going through the court and you have a lawyer your lawyer can get his pay stubs and that can be shown in court how much he actually makes.
2006-06-19 05:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by kelley2387 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not wrong! You need to do this for you and your child before you get into debt and can't afford an attorney! I speak from experience! My ex didn't pay for 5 months. I took him back to court and he not only had to pay arrearages, but his wages were garnished so that his employer paid me from his paycheck. It worked out great. Then when he left that employer, he has never been delinquent again! Go, do what you have to!! He needs to pay. The less he is with the child, the more he has to pay, so be honest about his time spent with the child!
2006-06-19 05:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by T2Step 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing, even though you sound like you are trying and have tried to give him the benefit of a doubt. I know you'd Rather him being honest, but some men like to play these games, in order to hurt us women, and wind up affecting the child more. Do what you have to do. He'll never change, once a mess up always a mess up, I learned the hard way.
2006-06-19 05:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by richallfam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning there is no such ingredient as a uncomplicated regulation divorce!! Secondly, i'm undecided what state you reside in yet maximum states require which you have lived at the same time and shared equivalent duty for countless years formerly they think approximately it uncomplicated regulation if no longer countless then i'm particular a year a minimum of. So it does not sound such as you have something uncomplicated regulation happening right here, she's ignorant. positioned her stuff out of your domicile, replace the locks and if she needs to act a fool approximately it call the police and get an order of secure practices agaisnt her.
2016-10-31 03:15:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i hear ya, go for what is your and your son, you know how much he can really make after its said and done, so go far it, he should wanna pay for kid but if he does'nt ask him if he wants to give up his rights to that child and never worry about him again. if he does not want ot do that go far what ever is due to him. i dont understand why men dont wanna pay, all i think is that they think we are gonna spend the money on the children, but little do they know it has to go long way for us, rent, food, clothig, daycare, diapers, shoes, gas in your gar, docotr visits, men dont think like we do and thats the truth, prtect your child while you can and get whatever it takes to get himn to pay, just try not to get to overwhelmed with the whole court thing, take him back to court for the right amount of childsupprt and stick with this time that way he has to pay you directly and more effectly than in the past and this time give no more chances to allow him to act this way, as far as him seeing your child, that is only up to him to see him, dont force that issue because he will when he is ready, and right now your child is probably still young and lots of work to man, and that is understandable, its not fair to you or your son but the X will know when its time to see his child, dont force that issue your child will only suffer from that, just remerb be patience and rember to all talk as kind about the father as you can in fronmt of the little one, the rewards in the end will only benefit you good luck send me email if you wanna chat cqueen742003@yahoo.com
2006-06-19 05:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong. Sounds like a dead beat Dad. You are doing what is right for you and your child. He doesn't seem to care what he does for your child so who cares what he feels about you taking him to court. Good for you!
2006-06-19 04:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mz.H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your fault he committed perjury to the courts. He'll find out that is not acceptable to you and not everyone in this world are going to do things his way. He helped bring that child into this world and needs to be held responsible for that. His own deviousness caught up with him and he has no one to blame but himself.
2006-06-19 05:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing what's best for you but if you two have a business together I hope you did the paper work to secure your half don't allow him to take advantage of you handle your thing and do it with a feeling!
2006-06-19 05:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋