I accussed my ex of cheating on the job with one of the secretaries. My husband left me 6/6 asked for a divorce and moved into his own apartment at the complex he and she work and live. We had been fighting but I had no idea he was going to up and move. He didn't call all week. By Sunday he called to aplogize and say he loved me etc.I told him to come over and get the rest of his things because by that time I had accepted that it was over. He came over and started kissing me and we had sex. This week he began calling me every lunch break and every evening asking me to come over, saying bring our daughter over ( 3m/o) I came over once and brought our daughter. He satrted calling me asking for sex again everynight. On Friday night I showed up at his door 1am. We had sex for 3 hours things he had never done before, and we continued all weekend. He is telling me I love you soo much. I love your (p***y) I am thinking was he cheating B4.Why does he love it so much now? Should I stop sex?
2006-06-19 04:49:16 · 5 answers · asked by Negrita 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm guessing the one he cheated on you with is not giving him enough or they are fighting and he knows that you'll give in to him. Afterall, he is your baby's daddy and you were married. Maybe he reallized that the grass wasn't greener. Maybe, he has an addiction to cheating and wants the thrill of cheating on her with you. That pig of man, probably wants both of you at the same time....hell, I don't know. Just know that all men want an interesting sex life. Probably to boast about it to his friends or something. However, there is a chance that he IS sorry and DOES miss you. Just respect yourself and stand your ground. And don't let him use you. He might have reallized that he gave up his wife and child to be with someone who doesn't want a relationship with him. You never know what you got, until its gone. Is what I always say. It's totally up to you if you stop or not, but if he's still going through with the divorce, just remember to keep your emotions out of it and reallize it is just sex, nothing more. But if he doesn't persue the paperwork, and really wants to come back....I would try to explore and keep the sex hot so he doesn't go looking for it somewhere else again. There are tons on toys and clothing that can turn you and him on without having to cheat. Just communicate with him sweetie and follow your heart. Good Luck
2006-06-19 05:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by Krazy K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow.
I really dont have an answer for you.
You sound a lot like the gf that I used to have, but never married.
You sound like a perfect wife from the guys perspective. When men get married they want the woman to stay the same and women want to change their men.
There is a lot more to this then just the sex part.
Your man has a huge appetite for sex. Either you fulfill it or he has to quench the appetite someplace else.
Most cheaters never stop cheating, but the amount now suggests that hubby is not doing with anyone else, but who knows?
I am not really answering your question but pointing out other avenues for you to think about.
I dont think that anyone can solve relationship problems in a single 1000 word answer.
2006-06-19 11:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by RandallL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to decide if you want to save the marriage. If so, get him talking and find out what happend, it could just be a rough spot, espcially if you have a new baby. Try counseling if it will help, but don't give up until you are sure it is over.
2006-06-19 11:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will not say his cheating is right. nor defend his actions.......but maybe he was just trying to get your attention. is he really going ahead with the divorce?
a new baby is often very disruptive and can make you not in the mood. seems like you want him back and you're willing to do what he wants. he likes that. if you can get back together and continue in that same kind of mood it'll be good for both of you as well as your daughter.
g'luck
2006-06-19 11:58:04 · answer #4 · answered by readytogo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This so simple. You are now his girlfriend. No commitment issues, no shared responsibilities, and you are being the perfect sucker for going along with it. He's literally getting his cake and eating it too. Nice job.
2006-06-19 12:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋