I want to get married someday, but I don't want to have children. I hope to find the love of my life who has the same feelings. I was just wondering if having kids is part of getting married.
2006-06-19 04:46:36 · 31 answers · asked by nobodyd 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not at all. Its a personal choice. But you need to wait on sex until marriage. And after you are married, get a tubal so you cannot have kids. Being a virgin bride is a great thing, but I was suggesting it because sex can equal kids. And no point in having to deal with adoption/ birth/ abortion if you know you don't want kids. So be super careful and be very up front about no kids. Make sure your future spouse is just as sure. You might also want to check and see what the legal age is in your state to have a tubal. If you have no kids, they are usually unwilling to do it until you reach a certain age.
2006-06-19 04:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having kids is not part of getting married. If both of the people feel the same way about not wanting kids than you shouldnt have them. You would not be able to give the children the best life if a part of you didn't really want them and you only had them because you thought that was part of getting married.
Discuss this with the person before you get married to make sure that they feel the same way about it as you.
2006-06-19 12:03:11 · answer #2 · answered by kelley2387 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you don't have to have children. I want a child but I will be the type of mom that just spoils my child and buys her whatever she wants. My cousin has been married for 23 years and they have no children. They don't even have a pet. I have a aunt who is married but the only child that she has is her dog (Cookie Monster). It all depends on you and your spouse. Its what the both of you want. If he wants a child and you don't then you need to have a serious talk. If you feel as if you aren't ready for a child then adopt a dog or a cat. They are just like having a child. You have to feed them, clean them, bathe them, and pick up after them. I hope this helped you out a lot.
2006-06-19 11:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by Shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have to have kids just because you get married. But knowing you do not want to have kids, before you get serious with anyone, you need to make sure they're on the same page as you or it will cause major problems down the road. You might meet a great guy but if he wants kids and won't take no for an answer, you'll have to move on because you won't be getting what you want (no kids) and he won't get the kids he wants. I'm undecided about having kids myself and so is my boyfriend, so this works for us because I'm certainly not opposed to having them but I won't get upset if I don't...unless I don't have pets to love. Good luck to you!
2006-06-19 11:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO absolutely not. that is a decision each couple makes for themselves, i've known several married couple who chose not to have children. its just not for some people and its great that you recognize it insted of having them anyway and hating being a parent and therefore being a bad one. i think alot more people should be like you! there are far too many unwanted, mistreated and abandoned children in the world if their parents had thought about it and recognized it before getting pregnant everyone would be better off.
2006-06-19 11:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no why do you even ask that question, your body is your control, all i can say is this if your unsure now Wait a very long time before having them, it will either make you or break you honestly, it takes really strong peoiple to have kids these days becuase of divorce and the whole single parent thing, make sure ready when the time is right, if youy dont want them hold off as long as possible, besides your a newly wed enjoy your man every night beforing worring about kids ok ,good luck to you guys
2006-06-19 11:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by prettygirl new orleans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you don't HAVE to have children to have a marriage, but you need to make sure that you marry someone who also doesn't want to have kids. Make sure this is talked out before you even get serious with someone.
2006-06-19 11:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by Crazymomo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No having kids is not part of getting married. It is not a requirement of marriage. Just make sure that whom ever u r dating that they know your feelings on having kids. Do not hide it from them and let them know once u r already married. That will just end your marriage.
2006-06-19 11:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by E T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your choice. Just be sure you explain your feelings clearly to any man you start to get serious with. Nobody wants to be surprised by this information.
I was very clear from the outset that I didn't want kids and I did find a wonderful man who felt the same way, and we are very happy with our quiet lives- we can go visit our nephews and nieces when ever we want, and escape when we are tired of them.
2006-06-19 12:59:20 · answer #9 · answered by ladders_to_fire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your husband never wants kids too that is fine. But make sure you marry someone that has the same goals and interests you have.
2006-06-19 12:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋