I think my boyfriend is stealing from my family.?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and I love him very much and he has always treated me with love and respect. He supports me and puts me before himself. But for a while now things seem to keep disapearing from my house (I live with my parents and 16yr old brother). Things like video games, my brothers old wallet, my brothers Sony PSP, and DVD's. Those same items seem to have magicaly appeared at my boyfriends house. He always seems to have a good excuse for where he got them, for instance, he said he traded his friend his PS2 for the Sony PSP, so I let it go figuring it was a coincidence, but now more things are popping up at his house. I don't know what to say since I've never cought him and have hard core proof. Plus many of the things I found in a drawer or something, they wern't laying around. My boyfriend and I share everything and he always lets my brother and I borrow his things. I don't know what to do stealing from my family is like stealing from me

Answer 1

Most gaming machines and some items have their own unique serial number, your family should write down the serial numbers but unless you hope to one day resell the item, then there are ways to etch your name onto some of your possessions. Honey, anyone who steals from your family or from you is not really your friend. I would be suspicious of the things you have claimed, and if your family has or can get receipts for the missing gaming equipment, then possibly there are serial numbers that could be compared? This is serious, and you can believe that if you are with a thief, (whether it's a mental problem or a criminal problem), you need to find out if he is responsible. Then talk to your parents to make them aware, and although this man was trusted, you can and probably should call the police, (and quit dating him). In the long run, you may be doing him a favor. If he learns his lesson about stealing early in life he may get some therapy or some help if it's a mental problem, and if he is just a scoundrel, then it will out him to others who may also trust him.

I have my phone number etched on my TV, my microwave, my computer and some of the components inside the computer. I also have the printer, monitor and other valuables all etched with my phone number in case a thief ever tries to sell them at a pawn shop or tries to deny that they belong to me. I have saved receipts and copy the model and serial numbers from most everything I own. Many of my possessions are insured by my homeowners insurance, and since I have to give them the Serial and Model numbers for replacement cost purposes then they also have a record to give over to the police if my home is ever robbed.

Too many coincidences are just too many. Today it may be a few games or PSP or a music CD, as he is allowed to get away with the smaller things he may get bolder and one day start stealing money or decide to rob a bank. It may not seem like it, but if he is a thief, and you can prove it, you need to do it and then get away from him! His stealing may make other friends suspect you if you hang around with him! It may be a sickness with him or he may do it because he could not otherwise afford to buy or have his folks buy the items, but there is NO GOOD reason to steal! Get an engraver, when a thief sees the item has been marked, or they know that parents and insurance have the model and serial numbers to help them track the item if it ever gets "misplaced", usually they are less likely to try to take it. If you decide to later give or donate the item to someone else, then you can scratch out your phone number. With the same engraver that you used to mark it!

Just hanging around someone that may be a suspected thief, can ruin your reputation, so you need to be sure, then find another boyfriend if this one has sticky fingers for other people's possessions!

Good luck!

Answer 2

You know he's stealing....why do you need hard proof ? Could it really be coincidence that every single thing that is missing is showing up at his place now ? even the wallet ?

The only other thing you can do is try to decide which items he might be interested in taking next and put some kind of small identifying mark on it so when you see it at his place you will know if its the same item.

Answer 3

How LONG can you love someone you can't trust? Yes, stealing from your family IS stealing from you. Even if he was stealing from someone else (and he probably IS) he is still stealing, which means he's dishonest. I would ditch him. If you know what he is doing, and choose to ignore it, you have become his en-abler. This could lead to you "covering-up" for him, which would turn YOU into a liar and a cheat. You would put your own family relationships in jeopardy. Don't let this bring YOU down to that level. If he really put you before himself he wouldn't be putting you in this position. I say cut your losses and run. Boyfriends come and go, but family is forever.

Answer 4

He sounds kinda cheesey if you know what I mean. Too bad your brother did record the serial number down then you could have real proof, but untill then I would never leave him alone in your house. Borrowing is one thing but he has to ask first for it to be borrowing and actually give it back not make a lie about it.

Answer 5

You are right....he is stealing from not only your family but you as well. Sounds as though he has a problem that may be bigger than the both of you right now. Sit down and talk with him and let him know your concerns. Also, suggest he get some help, if he is doing this now, imagine what bigger problems may lay ahead.

Answer 6

It isn't LIKE stealing from you...it IS stealing from you. And stuff doesn't magically appear. For future use, all serial numbers on all electronic devices need to be on a master list of what a person owns. It is handy information when a theft occurs, not only for insurance purposes, but also police investigating.

Answer 7

If he wasn't stealing, why would all the stuff you found be in a drawer. Why is he hiding them? I think you know that he is stealing. You should treat him like any other criminal, call the cops.

Answer 8

You are an AZZHOLE! How desperate can you be, to let a piece of dick steal from you and you allow it. You have VERY low self esteem and he is treating you like an AZZWIPE! I would personally take my shiit back and also tell your family. CUT HIM OFF! ARE YOU A JACKASS OR WHAT? CALL THE COPS TOO.! DAMN I can't believe you are this FUKING STUPID! YOU ARE A DUMBASS IF I HAVENT SEEN ONE!

Answer 9

wow thats tousled. human beings stealing from him! he could be careful mutually with his issues.save it locked up or some thing. and that i imagine you and your boyfriend,daughter could stay with your mom.desire that help!

Answer 10

stealing from your family is not like stealing from you. it is stealing from you.

mark an item u know he will like to lay his hands on .let him bite it.
then confront him.

make the guy pay for it.

utterly trashy .