We've slept together 4x now at my house and some ways I feel bad but I don't think i should take all the blame because he is the one that accepted my flirting and played a long. Should I feel responsible and bad?
2006-06-19 04:16:00 · 31 answers · asked by Laura 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't be concerned about how he feels. It sounds like your conscience is trying to tell you something. Listen to it. Don't be a home wrecker.
2006-06-19 04:32:09 · answer #1 · answered by Vinny78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why were you flirting with a married man in the first place? Obviously you never cared about his wife or marriage from the very beginning and you've already had sex with him on multiple occasions, so why are you just now beginning to feel bad? My guess is you're totally self centered and don't give a damn about his wife or family. You're beginning to feel bad because you know you can't win. If he leaves his wife, you'll never be able trust him. If he's capable of cheating once, what makes you believe he'd be any different with you? Or maybe he's already told you he'll never leave his wife. You're looking for people to tell you it's all his fault and justify your role in this warped f*ed relationship. Grow up and realize how totally selfish you are!!!!
2006-06-19 05:28:12 · answer #2 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anna do you love yourself even a little bit , cause those are the words of a woman who has no respect or love not to mention pride or dignity for herself. Why should you feel guilty because he stood before GOD and family and pledged to honor his WIFE that means no sleeping with a common easy slut who will spread them for anyone. You are telling everyone that you provide a service like plumbing to a man that then goes home and lays next to his wife. You want people to respect you and they simply won't because of your tramp like morals. I think you get the picture from here, find a man who is not married cause in the end someone always gets hurt...
2016-05-20 02:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, but since you began the flirting, a cheating husband, will always accept an easy lay...your both responsible for your actions and should know that its wrong to pursue a married man even if he has no morals..if you can't understand this then ask his wife, I am sure she will demonstrate the pain you both are causing.
2006-06-19 04:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are responsible for it, at least in part. So what he accepted your flirting and played along.....sounds like you started it. You tempted him away from his wife. You should feel very very bad. It is wrong to have an affair. Apparently you know this, or you wouldn't have to ask the questions to have your actions justified.
2006-06-19 04:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 50% to blame. Don't you dare take on his shame. One of the major problems with the female gender is that ever sense the apple incident we have taken on HIS blame.
Men never take responsibility for what they do or don't do in a relationship. You did your part but so did Judas. He betrayed his vow. All you did was get your groove on.
2006-06-19 04:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation but he's not married. Some times I feel bad but like you said he's the one to make the first move. You shouldn't feel responsible either if he didn't want to do it he should of kept his pants on.
2006-06-19 04:21:40 · answer #7 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you shouldn't take all the blame, you are both equally guilty. Him for betraying his family and you for being a knowing participant. What I don't understand is the sudden pangs of guilt. It didn't seem to bother you the first time you snuck around and your working on #5 so you must not mind being someones little secret.
2006-06-19 04:36:53 · answer #8 · answered by Striker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have done this and all I can say is to really look at the guy you're doing this with. Ask yourself why you are doing it. If it starts out this way and his wife finds out, then he may want to be with you. But, how would you feel knowing that he was not faithful to his wife, and now he is with you. Would you trust him? If he can do this while married, think of what he can do when not....
Just be sure that this guy is really worth it
2006-06-19 04:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is still very wrong as it is adultery and sin. You should feel bad and responsible for what you have done to him and his marriage. You basically are the "other" woman. Yes it is his fault too but he did not force you to be with him. It was your choice too. You both are to blame here.
2006-06-19 05:17:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he is married, yes it is wrong. Where are your morals? You should not take all the blame but it does take two to have an affair. If you feel bad there is a reason for it, HE IS MARRIED!!!!!!
2006-06-19 04:26:24 · answer #11 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋