I mean i've known him since i was 7 but he doesn't want to eat me out, he doesn't make love to me , he doesn't do kinky things like suck my toes but i do it to him. I go to strip clubs with him, watch porn with him. I am a scorpio and i am a frea and i would do anything to satisfy my man and i think he should do the same. I cheated on previous boyfriends in the past but but i don't want to do that to him because he's different. I feel he's confident like i am not going but I don't know how much of this i can take. It's going to be a year and i am fed up. N if it was vice-versa he would have cheated on me already. Please help.......................
2006-06-19 04:13:00 · 18 answers · asked by sexysash69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should tell him your needs.How is he suppose to know what you want if he doesn't know what you want.Maybe when your in bed you should guide him while your having sex and if things don't change after that then I don't know what to tell you other then leave.Good Luck
2006-06-19 04:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wwarnsley's answer is a good one. You have to tell him what you DO want. Men won't ask for directions, but that doesn't mean they aren't lost. (I'm a man.) Another suggestion is get a hip sex manual that both of you read, alone or together. My personal favorite is "The Guide to Getting It On." If by "not great" you mean he comes too soon, you can get a book called "Sexual Solutions" by urologist Michael Castleman, MD. It is a little more difficult to offer this to him tactfully. Maybe your best bet is to leave it lying around somewhere where he can read it in private, when you are not around. Btw, this book is not focused exclusively on premature ejaculation. It covers other male sexual issues too. As a man, I think this is the best book out there. Will you be satisfied if he gives you orgasms some other way than penetration? The first book has explicit instructions on how to do oral and fingering correctly for a woman. Not that every woman's the same, but what many men do and what feels good to a woman are worlds apart, and that book has chapters that narrow the gap. Can't give more specific advice without a more specific question.
2016-03-26 21:33:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is most important here. Would you want someone to just come out and say, "You're boring in bed."? Or better yet, keep the feelings to themselves and eventually sneak out every other night to "Jane's"? You have to speak to him in a way that you can be truthful, but yet loving. Maybe he feels nervous about certain things. Maybe he's cheating?? Maybe he's not comfortable, or even BEST, maybe he wants to wait until marriage. (if not to have sex, then to do the more "advanced" aka "freaky" things.) Seems like you all have had a pretty long relationship, so just be open. He may feel embarrassed or even hurt, but thats love honey. Truth sometimes hurts, but you can always turn lemons into lemonade!!!!!
2006-06-19 04:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by mommy3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him..tell him what pleases you. If anything while your watching porn point out what you want him to do to you and make sure you praise him when he does something you like. If you have to take matters into your own hands show him how to do it. No use in wasting time the quicker you tell him the quicker you will be enjoying each other more.
2006-06-19 04:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and tell him how you feel and ask him why he doesn't want to satisfy you the way you need him to. If he doesn't want to satisfy you, maybe he is cheating on you and don't want you to know.
2006-06-19 04:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by re210512 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit him down and tell him. If you two are open enough to watch porn together then you should be open enough to tell him what you want and need to be satisfied. If you don't tell him what you want and need then you are never going to get it.
2006-06-19 04:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the right thing. either tell him you are done or work it out, dont cheat, that is fake. if he cant satisfy youre needs then just be kind about it and move along.
2006-06-19 04:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY ARE YOU WITH HIM? First of all if he wont have sex with you then he's stupid already. But if he is doing things wrong then you should take out the time to show him how to do it right. If he isnt concerned with learning how to please you, or if he's just a really slow learner..THEN MOVE ON.
2006-06-19 04:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he doesn't satisfy you in bed. You think he would have cheated on you in a heartbeat. Why are you with him ?
2006-06-19 04:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit him down and have a nice heart to heart with him about it. Bring up everything you said here and see if he understands it then.
2006-06-19 04:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by pjthedj247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋