My parents got rid of the TV because they don't like some of the shows on there. Now they want to get rid of the computer because there is bad stuff on the computer too. They don't want me to buy any teen magazines, but I do anyway and I hide them good. I told my parents that 'bad stuff' is everywhere, and they can't keep me inside a bubble forever, but they just said that getting rid of the TV and computer would be good for me. Keep in mind that I'm 14, and when any of my fave shows are on, my friends have to record them for me and give them to me without my parents knowing. The shows aren't even bad! I had American Idol taped for me.
What should I do to convince my parents that bad stuff is everywhere and by hiding me they're just making it worse?
2006-06-19 04:11:37 · 11 answers · asked by Obama! twist™ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You may thank your parents later. In the meantime, is it possible that you can earn money for buying these things for yourself, if you demonstrate and promise that you'll use them responsibly? Try to help your parents see your point of view and try hard to see theirs. (The conversation MUST be calm, respectful and well-timed.)
If these items are more important to you than what your family is trying to teach you, you may consider emancipation when you're older. Ask yourself if you can put up with what seem like hard conditions temporarily, until you are on your own. It's probably worth it to you to do so. Obviously, your parents know they have no control over what you do when you are not at home. They have simply decided that they must take hard stands about what is permissible in their home.
Since it is your home, too, I really recommend educating yourself and your parents on what controls can be used for the TV and the computer to make them "safe" and seeing if they will allow you to try these things on an agreed upon trial basis. You know-your attitude is really more important than you realize in dealing with your parents. Obviously they love you or they wouldn't be paying a bit of attention to these matters.
It's possible a third party could help you and your parents work these things out, especially if it's someone they and you all trust-a clergyman, relative or counsellor, for instance.
You'll have plenty of irate responses to your question. I hope this answer can be more helpful to you than more anger or rebellion will be.
God bless you. You or your parents are welcome to message me anytime. Buttercup
2006-06-19 04:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by Buttercup 3 · 10⤊ 0⤋
its summer...get away from the computer and go swimming with your friends or something...ride bikes...your 14 you need to be outside playing not online all day! you have no idea how lucky you are to be able to have a computer at 14....and there's no way your gonna be able to convince your parents that the "bad stuff" is everywhere...my parents were like that with me too....except we had no tv, no computer, no cell phones, no cd players, actually no music unless it was oldies or sometimes country, i wasnt alloud going to school dances or functions, wasnt alloud in sports at all, i was alloud at a friends house for one night every other weekend (directly after school til noon the next morning and we couldnt leave the house unless it was with her mom and her mom called my mom first) and i was only alloud on the phone for 10 mins a day. when it gets that bad then you need to have a talk with them...but ya know what...its not going to do anything. just be lucky for what you do have
2006-06-19 04:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow!!they are some strict parents, tell them there is bad stuff but you dont get near it. and you need some kind of entertainment
2006-06-19 04:25:18 · answer #3 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them (calmly). Maybe they could get parental controls or something so you could go on most sites.
2006-06-19 05:33:00 · answer #4 · answered by band_geek_freak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THINK SMART.TELL TO GET CHILD BLOCK ON SOME CHANNELS THEN MA B U CAN GET UR TV . TELL THEM UR OPINION U HAVE FREEDOM OF SPEECH USE IT
2006-06-19 05:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by minime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my step-dad did the same thing but i got used to it and just bugged him all the time so he put them back
2006-06-19 08:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry for you, your not my sister are you??? I wish i could help, but since your only 14, i don't suggest fighting fire with fire, bad idea.
2006-06-19 05:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by pwithers12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop hiding them just let them see it
2006-06-19 06:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ut Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of them! fast!
2006-06-19 04:15:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
commit suicide. your life is over
2006-06-19 04:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by nakedandsucking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋